how exactly would you have built that grit attitude? it has to come naturally, imo adults cannot teach it to the immature brains of kids, parents can give the talk to their kids but not do the walk for them I've seen smart kids regretting not being more ambitious and not getting into better schools, the parents did push them and they had enough support, financial and otherwise, just didn't have the drive to work harder, sometimes two kids in the same family just different personalities, one gets into an ivy, one just happy with community college in my experience, forcing an outcome is not the optimal path for the kid, let's say the kid is smart enough to get perfect grades and scores but is not studying and practicing hard enough, so feels better sailing smoothly without the extra effort, tutoring and so on, those kids will still get into good programs at lesser than T20 schools and keep good grades in college and get good jobs and yes, maybe they could have been the CEO of some startup if graduating from T10 but would that have been worth it the extra effort all along the way? if money is enough for good life, do you need to strive to be billionaire? some people are made for that, the extra responsibility, double work hours and so on, most people want easier paths and it is nothing wrong with it even if the potential is there, there are so many people reaching for the stars so there will always be someone filling that spot, no need to get into that competition if you really don't find it that much fun |
💯 to all of this. It’s becoming clearer and clearer to me…. |
I think he is very brave and amazing if rather young and naieve! A lot of high-achieving high school students have bought into this fiction that an elite college admission will be some kind of golden ticket where everything will fall into place for them. Although it can be an asset, it is so much more complicated and does not work like that. |
The current epidemic of anxiety disorders in people in their 20s belies your statement. |
Reminds me of a line from Gosford Park where the servants are gossiping about their lords upstairs until one of them reminds everyone that while they think a lot about the "haves" upstairs, those folks upstairs couldn't give two farts about their servants downstairs. The have-nots simply don't exist in the minds of those who have. |
+2 This kid has bigger problems that Princeton can't fix. I think that is a big problem with school admissions trying to pull the levers of social mobility. College cannot fix a broken childhood where the kid grows up compulsively self-sabotaging because that's all the family taught them. These videos are a form of self-sabotage aren't they? |
Princeton's social mobility efforts have taken a bunch of kids out of poverty and landed them jobs in FAANG, top IBs/PE shops, and solid PhD programs. Princeton can't fix people's emotional traumas and not all of the kids will be prepared to make use of Princeton's opportunities. Back when I attended, I knew some children of billionaires who were in and out of rehab for drug problems. Even people from rich backgrounds sometimes have broken childhoods. The social mobility efforts seem to be succeeding on the whole even if not for every kid. I personally think increased social mobility is a net positive for society. |
This this this. +10000 |
It depends on the kid. I went to Duke on 100% financial aid, and the work study jobs are a great memory, and I met my best friends at those jobs. I never thought about being a lower class student to be honest. |
How would your Yale friends know what Princeton alums do at reunions? Do they take notes while attending with a spouse? |
I’ve heard similar things about Columbia |
I have wondered the same thing. Are there studies out there. Kids with inflated GPAs getting into prestigious schools when they shouldn’t be there. Sounds snarky I know. And my DS was not in the running so not personal. He is going to a school in south that he loves (and requires test scores). |
My friend graduated from Princeton and had the same experience as this young man. He went on to graduate school at ODU and said he would never send his kids to Princeton. |