Staying after our if wedlock baby and judgment

[Anonymous]

Would you judge a wife for staying with a man after he has a child out of wedlock?

Yes. I am op of other post.

[Anonymous]

Eyebrow raising until the next sound bite.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. I couldn't do it, but it's easier for me to understand a marriage that survives one infidelity (even with a child) than a marriage like the Clinton's that stays together after many.

[Anonymous]

Nope. In fact I'd have a lot of respect for her so long as she was able to move past it and find happiness for herself.

[Anonymous]

Thanks pp. I'm glad somebody could understand my title. I might repost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. I couldn't do it, but it's easier for me to understand a marriage that survives one infidelity (even with a child) than a marriage like the Clinton's that stays together after many.

So you matters if you know he cheated before?

[Anonymous]

I would not respect a woman like that. She doesn't respect herself, so why should I respect her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. I couldn't do it, but it's easier for me to understand a marriage that survives one infidelity (even with a child) than a marriage like the Clinton's that stays together after many.

So you matters if you know he cheated before?

It!!!!
Is it maters if ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. I couldn't do it, but it's easier for me to understand a marriage that survives one infidelity (even with a child) than a marriage like the Clinton's that stays together after many.

So you matters if you know he cheated before?

It!!!!
Is it maters if ...

I think a person could stray once if there were problems in the marriage. If you can fix those problems, then the marriage might be even stronger and eventually better. But a serial cheater can't be reformed, IMO. That's a serious character flaw and not just a one-time weakness. I'm not saying repairing a marriage is easy, but I think it's possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. In fact I'd have a lot of respect for her so long as she was able to move past it and find happiness for herself.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

No, OP, I'd pity her, but I would certainly not judge her. She's keeping her vows. I would assume that she has reasons for making the choices she has made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, OP, I'd pity her, but I would certainly not judge her. She's keeping her vows. I would assume that she has reasons for making the choices she has made.

Pity is judging

[Anonymous]

How would I even know about the infidelity and the other child? I assume only people very very close to you would know, in which case "I" would be looking at this in some kind of context and so no, would not simply judge. Is there a reason people who don't know you well would hear all of this? I haven't read the other thread.

[TheManWithAUsername]

I'm pretty judgmental, but I wouldn't think for a moment that that was enough info on which to judge someone.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I can say, without all the information and knowing the people - yes. I'd judge.

However, if it turns out to be my best friend, or my sister and I have to live through the drama and the reasons and the explaination. I probably would be understanding and non-judgemental.

So, depends on the person and the situation to be honest.