It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that. |
It is when you work full time in the office. |
Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here? |
I bet OP walked in and GLARED at them, which is what made it awkward. I've been in this situation and I just say hi on my way to wherever I'm going and then never mention it again. I can't believe you texted someone about it. How catty. |
I had a friend like this who took it as an affront if anyone she knew dared to not invite her somewhere. One day she ran into me and another mutual friend having impromptu drinks after work. This friend stormed out and FTFO about how we had excluded her in a nasty text. I have since found out she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. OP sounds clingy and unhinged to think she was “excluded” because 2 of her friends got together with 13 other moms she doesn’t even know. She said 3 others were acquaintances so it seems as if she didn’t even know 10 of these women. Why would she expect to be included in a group on which she doesn’t even know 2/3 of the moms? And the fact that she sent the text she did trying to shame them for not inviting her really seals the deal for me that she has no social graces and likely an underlying personality disorder. |
If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything. If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip? |
I’m guessing it was the first time. |
OP's first post alluded to it be a regular gathering. |
TBH I think all the posters who call people "unhinged" all the time are a bit off their rocker as well. There isn't a whole lot to go on regarding OP's level of closeness to everyone in the group and we still don't know if the gathering is a weekly Friday thing nor if one of her two subdivision friends was the organizer. |
Meh. I work for a British company and people often have a drink(s) at lunch. Sometimes we have drinks in the office! |
How would she know? She’s not invited. |
Gee you sound fun. |
OP here—I was really nice and said hi at the beginning when there were three or four women coming in. When I was leaving, I’ve noticed rather high attendance numbers. |
OP was also at the winery at noon, remember? |
What? |