Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it. |
So your sample is a pool of wealthy men who have prioritized their career above everything else? Got it. |
My pool is "wealthy" families. Most women work too. |
I'd also say that these are older families... so none of these men got paternity leave. https://hbr.org/2023/11/how-paternity-leave-helps-dads-brains-adapt-to-parenting https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/17/parenting/paternity-leave.html |
Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime. |
My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands. Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions. |
You’re old. Millenial men and younger are way more involved in childrearing than men of your generation were. |
It is pretty obvious. Men are expected to initiate everything while women are passive. |
Why ddi you say your kids are in private? Are you trolling? |
Yep. They vet them strongly at the sperm banks |
I agree. I'm GenX and my DH, as well as the other dads in our circle, are great dads. Perfect? no. But the moms aren't either. But they are involved and hands on and have been since birth. This is anecdotal, i understand. But I'm not seeing what is described in the PP. |
You wouldn't see it, you would have to have the mom explain it to you. You think you can sit next to someone at sports and understand their life inside their house/marriage. |
were, happy. |
So you had multiple mom friends explain to you in detail (essentially) “I can’t join you for dinner because my DH is my useless, idiotic third child. He is constantly competing with my 3 year old for attention”? Huh. Let’s use our critical thinking skills here for a minute. |
. You are totally out of touch |