Mom Cliques. I had no idea.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here—I didn’t ask for your kind opinions on my mom clique story. Believe the post asks to share your favorite mom clique story.

But your example of a “mom clique” is a group of moms getting together. That’s not a clique.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

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Anonymous wrote:Oh yes, very much so. The deal is that some women never move out of the clique mentality of needing to have a group of women they are a part of that other women are excluded from. To them, this is just how life is and it does not occur to them that there is another way to do it.

The key is to not buy into it, OP. If those women want to go hang out together without you, who cares? You give them power by buying into the idea that they have something valuable that you are excluded from. They don't. Do you really think "Moms wine night" is super fun? It's not. That's too many people, most are probably boring. I'd way rather grab a drink with one of my longtime friends, or even one newish friend, than go spend an evening with 10+ moms from my kids school who I kind of know making small talk.

Adjust your attitude. Think "wow, thank goodness I don't have to come up with a lame excuse not to attend crap like this" and move on. You make it into more than it is by allowing yourself to feel left out. Embrace JOMO (the joy of missing out).

By definition someone is going to left out of any group. I’m sure when you ge together with a couple friends there are other friends you’re not inviting. By definition you’re excluding people. Not every person on the planet or in the school or whatever can be invited. People who bemoan other people getting together certainly aren’t going to be included in the future. And your JOMO sounds like more sour grapes. You can decide you don’t to want to get together with a group of 10+ people about the salty bitter attitude. Other people do lots of stuff I’m not interested in and I think it’s great for them! No “JOMO” here.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

Update us on Monday!

What did that mom you texted say?
Did you ever mention anything about planning an event at winery before to any of the "15" moms you saw there that day?

Yeah OP better have been planning to invite all those moms to her event or she is a hypocrite!

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There are always going to be a times when you feel left out. You just feel it and decide to assume the best (which is usually true! It’s unlikely anyone was intentionally excluded for some malicious reason). And move on.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

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What kind of group of moms was it? Third grade moms? PTA moms? Soccer moms? If it was every mom from that particular group (like every single soccer team mom) except you then I certainly understand how you feel. If it was a hodge podge group of moms who all know each other through separate things that’s totally different. There are “mom cliques” in my kids’ school but it’s 4-6 ppl per clique and that feels much more exclusive to me than a large group that probably includes people from different groups (a couple 1st grade moms, a couple swim team moms, etc but not ALL from one group/activity)

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

DP. I guarantee that if I lived in OP’s subdivision, I wouldn’t have been on that guest list, either. I’m always on the outside of these gatherings, and I’m still failing to see any reason for OP to be offended. Certainly not to the extent that she needed to text one of them and then post about it here. Just not that big of a deal.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange.

Friday is borderline.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

OP, we need clarity on the bolded part. Is it your understanding these gatherings are weekly?

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange.

Friday is borderline.

How about lunch anywhere on a Friday, if the place serves alcohol?

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

I’m not a big drinker but can see how day drinking may be easier than trying to get together over a weekend when you may need a sitter o be busy with kid activities. Perhaps this was the only day that worked for a get together and they decided to take off work. I could see myself enjoying a glass of wine and some apps on a beautiful Friday and I drink like once every 2-3 months.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

+10000

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

Oh no! Ouch.