Mom Cliques. I had no idea.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a very boring mom clique story. There are a bunch of anorexic moms who attend the same evangelical Christian church. And their kids all have obscure Jewish or old Testament names, which is not relevant to anything but just a weird detail. Anyway, they absolutely will not make eye contact or talk to anyone who does not go to that church.

That…sounds like it might be cult.

Honestly, it sounds very strange. Usually evangelicals AND cult members actively try to proselytize, so I would expect them to be super friendly and always inviting PP to various events. It's much better that they are ignoring her!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild! Did OP ever explain if she was friends with several of these women or not???

OP Here—Yes. Two of the moms that live in my subdivision are always invited to all of the events I host and I have been invited to their events as well. They live in my subdivision. There were three other moms that I am always friendly with, no issues.

Does it seem like you weren’t invited because it was a different group or did it seem like they all were aware you wanted to come and all decided against it?

Any chance they just weren’t thinking about you when planning it?

It's also possible the ones she knows aren't the ones who planned it. If someone specifically invited people, a guest can't really invite a random plus one. OP doesn't know how this gathering was organized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very boring mom clique story. There are a bunch of anorexic moms who attend the same evangelical Christian church. And their kids all have obscure Jewish or old Testament names, which is not relevant to anything but just a weird detail. Anyway, they absolutely will not make eye contact or talk to anyone who does not go to that church.

OP—that’s a creepy mom clique….sounds like a cult!

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

This and I assume you didn’t go to a winery at noon by yourself?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild! Did OP ever explain if she was friends with several of these women or not???

OP knew at least one of the women well enough to text her, so she is at that level of friendship with at least one of them (I would not send a text like that to someone I didn't consider a reasonably close friend, especially not a fellow mom from school, so I give OP the benefit of the doubt and assume she is similar).

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

This and I assume you didn’t go to a winery at noon by yourself?

If this happened to me and it was like my core group of mom friends from school, I would be upset, ngl.

If it was just like…random moms from school and I only knew a few of them? I would just be chill and say hi, and mention I was there to plan my event. Then you genuinely say you hope they have fun today and confidently move on to the business you are there for.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild! Did OP ever explain if she was friends with several of these women or not???

OP Here—Yes. Two of the moms that live in my subdivision are always invited to all of the events I host and I have been invited to their events as well. They live in my subdivision. There were three other moms that I am always friendly with, no issues.

Thanks for the context. I think you should have put that in the first post to give the story more context, because it now it does sound more like a deliberate snub than it did before when you left that part out. What can you do? The organizer apparently doesn't know you well enough or like you enough to invite you, and your two subdivision friends either didn't feel they had the pull to invite you, or they didn't want to. That is life. Now you have an excuse to not invite certain people in the future, if that's the route you want to go. One petty turn deserves another.

[Anonymous]

OP admittedly barely knows most of these women. No reason to have her nose out of joint. Maybe it was a birthday lunch for one of the women she doesn’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

OP, could you explain the bolded part a bit more? That part is odd to me, because normal people would just smile and nod, not act weird.

[Anonymous]

Did OP ever tell us if the friend she texted responded?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

The fact that OP was bothered by it, said it was awkward, and wound up texting one of the women about it all points to it being either an accidental or intentional exclusion by the group. A lot of posters on the thread immediately jumped to the assumption that OP didn't really know these women, imagined the awkwardness, and was mad over nothing. That says way more about those posters than it does about OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

The fact that OP was bothered by it, said it was awkward, and wound up texting one of the women about it all points to it being either an accidental or intentional exclusion by the group. A lot of posters on the thread immediately jumped to the assumption that OP didn't really know these women, imagined the awkwardness, and was mad over nothing. That says way more about those posters than it does about OP.

OP being bothered by it doesn’t mean anyone did anything wrong or deliberately against her. I highly doubt these women were “Uber uncomfortable” to see her. That is OPs interpretation. She is friends with 2, and 3 are acquaintances-
these weren’t 15 of her closest friends and no indication she was owed and invitation and not getting one means anything at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

The fact that OP was bothered by it, said it was awkward, and wound up texting one of the women about it all points to it being either an accidental or intentional exclusion by the group. A lot of posters on the thread immediately jumped to the assumption that OP didn't really know these women, imagined the awkwardness, and was mad over nothing. That says way more about those posters than it does about OP.

No, that doesn’t follow. Have you never known someone who grossly misinterprets things? This could easily be an OP problem.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.