All boys school...why?

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Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

I was and I can't imagine not being around girls in school. But girls didn't cause issues for me. Does that make me the odd one?

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Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

I was and I can't imagine not being around girls in school. But girls didn't cause issues for me. Does that make me the odd one?

Yeah, right. No dudes are posting on a private school forum. lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

I was and I can't imagine not being around girls in school. But girls didn't cause issues for me. Does that make me the odd one?

No, you aren't odd. Everyone has different experience among peers and different people seek different things for their kids for different reasons. There is no one right answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

I was and I can't imagine not being around girls in school. But girls didn't cause issues for me. Does that make me the odd one?

No, you aren't odd. Everyone has different experience among peers and different people seek different things for their kids for different reasons. There is no one right answer.

I think what was said was taken way out of context. The dating/teen drama in middle school is real. The he-said, she-said. The drama in the halls...which, yes, still happens in high school. And, with social media and the lax phone policy at our public school it was constant. Then, as said, girls were wearing butt cheek shorts with tops that amounted to bikini tops.

Any red-blooded boy going through puberty is going to be staring at that. I remember a guy flashing me his p@nis in my French class at my Fairfax County high school. Don't get me started on the fights that erupted over a girl or boy.

So, yeah, sometimes people want to get away from all of that and put their kids in a single sex environment to focus on learning. I see it with the all-girls schools---they are comfortable with no make-up and the uniform. In this day and age, it's a relief.

[Anonymous]

My neighbor with a Senior just told me how her son was talking to a girl from Spanish class and then her 'supposed girlfriend' was calling all night saying she was going to mess him up. The kid is shy, was not interested in the girl and the mom said they almost had to intervene with the school.

So--yeah, we don't have that stuff. And, in four years, we have had zero issues. It's a nice place and kids are supportive of one another. No ODs or hallway fights, etc.

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^^^^This is one of the reasons why we send our children to private. No metal detectors. No police assigned to the school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some boys, not all, will be much better able to study and learn in a good-fit boys school. Different children are different, and different schools are different. Find the best fit school for your DC.

My younger one was all hormones in 8th grade and couldn't concentrate and was so distracted by the opposite sex at our public---particularly with no dress code either. There was also drama amongst the boys related to the opposite sex and posturing and having to be cool, etc. The time he spent worrying about hair, clothes, etc. was outrageous.

He's a sophomore at an all-boys private HS and LOVES it. We saw such positive change in him...and in the kind of kids he hangs out with now. He embraced his intelligence (before it wasn't cool to be smart). And he now has all As in very tough classes and is proud of it. He's more in touch with his feelings, more compassionate and they do a ton of community service.

I find that boys aren't embarrassed to speak up in class or talk about poetry, etc when they aren't trying to impress girls. They also are kinder to one another and more supportive---you take that element of competition right out and they can focus on the school work.

My older one would have been fine single-sex or co-ed. He never had the issues younger one did, but I'm glad he also is finishing up at a single sex HS.

I feel lucky that my child isn't socially stunted like this, am so happy that these alternative environments exist for children like yours!

NP. This is not a response that makes you look like the more reasonable person or like a better parent.

I don't read the comment as negative. Maybe stunted isn't the best word to use. However that is how the original post reads. "so distracted by the opposite sex." That's not a good thing and it's great that he was able to be removed from that.

FFS- none of you have ever been a 13-year old boy. Lol

I was and I can't imagine not being around girls in school. But girls didn't cause issues for me. Does that make me the odd one?

No, you aren't odd. Everyone has different experience among peers and different people seek different things for their kids for different reasons. There is no one right answer.

I think what was said was taken way out of context. The dating/teen drama in middle school is real. The he-said, she-said. The drama in the halls...which, yes, still happens in high school. And, with social media and the lax phone policy at our public school it was constant. Then, as said, girls were wearing butt cheek shorts with tops that amounted to bikini tops.

Any red-blooded boy going through puberty is going to be staring at that. I remember a guy flashing me his p@nis in my French class at my Fairfax County high school. Don't get me started on the fights that erupted over a girl or boy.

So, yeah, sometimes people want to get away from all of that and put their kids in a single sex environment to focus on learning. I see it with the all-girls schools---they are comfortable with no make-up and the uniform. In this day and age, it's a relief.

Are you talking about public school? I don't think there is any argument that are aren't horrible public schools around. However the thread is titled "All boys school...why?," Comparing some horrible public school to an all boys school isn't fair. The comparison should be between private coed and private all boys. And there is no doubt in my mind that coed is better for boys. I hope this thread wasn't created looking for some sort of echo chamber.