Estranged children and estate documents

[Anonymous]

When I saw the headline of the post I thought it was going to be about cutting out a child that resulted from a ONS or something along those lines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?

They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.

They can take out a mortgage.

[Anonymous]

My parents included a clause that precluded any lawsuits. Anyone who sued lost their share. I recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?

They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.

They can take out a mortgage.

Sure they could do that, if any actual bank would lend to them ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup, people do it. Its sad.

Why do you mean it sad? Warranted but sad it has to be or sad a parent would do that to a kid even if its one they haven't been in contact with for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?

They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.

They can take out a mortgage.

Sure they could do that, if any actual bank would lend to them ...

Home equity loan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.


If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?


They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.


They can take out a mortgage.


Sure they could do that, if any actual bank would lend to them ...

Home equity loan.

Or reverse mortgage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

yep.

I'm guessing there is a completely different story from others' perspectives and, as someone else pointed out, how do you cut someone out of your will if you are then begging for money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

yep.

I'm guessing there is a completely different story from others' perspectives and, as someone else pointed out, how do you cut someone out of your will if you are then begging for money?

Oh, of course they have a different perspective, one that serves their own beliefs. Yes, the will/begging for money thing makes no sense (and that's a feeling you get a lot when with this kind of family).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?

They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.

They can take out a mortgage.

Have they tried asking you to buy their property from them (at an amount that they set, which is about double market value) and let them live there until death rent free? That was my FIL's brilliant plan that he thought was oh so equitable. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

If your parents are begging for money, how do they have anything to give away in a will?

They refuse to liquidate assets (valuable real estate) so now they want cash or "loans" against their estate.

They can take out a mortgage.

Have they tried asking you to buy their property from them (at an amount that they set, which is about double market value) and let them live there until death rent free? That was my FIL's brilliant plan that he thought was oh so equitable. Nope.

Ha ha. Not that, but something equally absurd couched as an "investment."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

yep.

I'm guessing there is a completely different story from others' perspectives and, as someone else pointed out, how do you cut someone out of your will if you are then begging for money?

Oh, of course they have a different perspective, one that serves their own beliefs. Yes, the will/begging for money thing makes no sense (and that's a feeling you get a lot when with this kind of family).

You sound so bitter. Life is short. You're losing time. Hope you can find a way to get over your anger. Again, I'm sure there are 2 sides. Your bitterness is evidence of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine, but don't expect the estranged child to support you or visit you when you are sick. My parents cut me out of their will and are now begging for money, visits, etc.

Wow, were your siblings treated differently?

yep.

I'm guessing there is a completely different story from others' perspectives and, as someone else pointed out, how do you cut someone out of your will if you are then begging for money?

Oh, of course they have a different perspective, one that serves their own beliefs. Yes, the will/begging for money thing makes no sense (and that's a feeling you get a lot when with this kind of family).

You sound so bitter. Life is short. You're losing time. Hope you can find a way to get over your anger. Again, I'm sure there are 2 sides. Your bitterness is evidence of that.

NP. And you sound like someone who mistreats people and then refers to their anger and boundaries as "bitterness".

If you mistreat someone enough, eventually they don't care about "losing time" with you. Knowing you gives them nothing worthwhile. In that situation you are the one who is losing time and a chance to redeem yourself.