Middle school graduation outfit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Pot, meet kettle.

Nope, because DD was still dressed appropriately for her age and the occasion. I would LOVE to see her in dresses, but she's very much a tomboy. She asked me back in October if she could wear pants, and I said yes then, as long as they were not jeans, and not ripped. A 14 yr old should not look like a hooker, which is what it sounds like OP's daughter will present as. It doesn't matter if lots of other girls will look like hookers.

OP, if I were you, I would serenely ignore the opinions of anybody who offered up statements like this.

It must be very tiring to constantly monitor other people's clothing choices for appropriateness.

[Anonymous]

Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

How about this one?

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?Br=F21&Category=dress&ProductID=2000251643&VariantID=01&gclid=CPHSjrjrvtQCFVVMDQodGbYOew

Or this one?

http://www.oasap.com/bodycon-dresses/61660-classic-back-slit-ribbed-body-con-dress.html?gclid=CM2viNTrvtQCFcVXDQod0ncCYA

Or this one?

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447099844&site_refer=CSE_GGLPRADS001&gclid=CM7Vx-HrvtQCFV5WDQod5_YFaA&gclsrc=aw.ds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Wow - who's controlling *your* relationship, PP? How hypocritical of you to jump all over the OP. While I agree that she shouldn't have allowed the tight dress and heels in the first place, it sounds like you're also letting your daughter wear whatever she wants too, so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Pot, meet kettle.

You beat me to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Pot, meet kettle.

Nope, because DD was still dressed appropriately for her age and the occasion. I would LOVE to see her in dresses, but she's very much a tomboy. She asked me back in October if she could wear pants, and I said yes then, as long as they were not jeans, and not ripped. A 14 yr old should not look like a hooker, which is what it sounds like OP's daughter will present as. It doesn't matter if lots of other girls will look like hookers.

You are truly a piece of work, PP. FYI, your daughter didn't look appropriate either. Unless you consider dressing like a clown to be appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

+1
Maybe she could pair it with a green bow tie, for more of a Playboy bunny-type look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Pot, meet kettle.

Nope, because DD was still dressed appropriately for her age and the occasion. I would LOVE to see her in dresses, but she's very much a tomboy. She asked me back in October if she could wear pants, and I said yes then, as long as they were not jeans, and not ripped. A 14 yr old should not look like a hooker, which is what it sounds like OP's daughter will present as. It doesn't matter if lots of other girls will look like hookers.

You are truly a piece of work, PP. FYI, your daughter didn't look appropriate either. Unless you consider dressing like a clown to be appropriate.

A 14-year-old girl in a knit stretch dress and heels at middle-school promotion is dressed appropriately. A 14-year-old girl in black pants, a black shirt, black Converse, and a green bow tie at middle-school promotion is also dressed appropriately. The former does not look like a sex worker; the latter does not look like a clown; if either of them did look like either, so what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

How about this one?

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?Br=F21&Category=dress&ProductID=2000251643&VariantID=01&gclid=CPHSjrjrvtQCFVVMDQodGbYOew

Or this one?

http://www.oasap.com/bodycon-dresses/61660-classic-back-slit-ribbed-body-con-dress.html?gclid=CM2viNTrvtQCFcVXDQod0ncCYA

Or this one?

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447099844&site_refer=CSE_GGLPRADS001&gclid=CM7Vx-HrvtQCFV5WDQod5_YFaA&gclsrc=aw.ds

The first one is completely sheer! You can see the underwear. No that is not appropriate for a graduation or anything a 14 year old would go to.

We are dealing with this for a formal dance, rather than a graduation. I'm sure there will be mature dresses and high heels, but there will be plenty of normal dresses too. I'd be appalled if someone wore the first dress you posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have not ordered such a tight dress in the first place. you should have returned the dress the second she tried it on, and you should not have bought her high heels. Who the hell is controlling this relationship? Clearly, your child. You are weak.

My daughter just graduated from middle school and wore black dress pants, a black button-down shirt, and a green bow tie with black Converse. I would have preferred she wear a dress, but she did not want to.

Pot, meet kettle.

Nope, because DD was still dressed appropriately for her age and the occasion. I would LOVE to see her in dresses, but she's very much a tomboy. She asked me back in October if she could wear pants, and I said yes then, as long as they were not jeans, and not ripped. A 14 yr old should not look like a hooker, which is what it sounds like OP's daughter will present as. It doesn't matter if lots of other girls will look like hookers.

No she wasn't. This outfit sounds horrible and goofy.

[Anonymous]

The only real requirements are the school dress code. The rest are those that relate to the sense of the event/occasion. Certainly there are cultural differences that come into play.

A graduation is not a time to look sexy at any age. Comfort is also important. Depending on where kids sit a short skirt may be a real problem or no big deal. High heels are fine IF the kid can walk well in them. Tottering along to receive a middle school certificate makes the kid look ridiculous.

It is a good time to talk about what dressing for the occasion means. What will you be doing? Who will be there? What impressions you want to make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

How about this one?

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?Br=F21&Category=dress&ProductID=2000251643&VariantID=01&gclid=CPHSjrjrvtQCFVVMDQodGbYOew

Or this one?

http://www.oasap.com/bodycon-dresses/61660-classic-back-slit-ribbed-body-con-dress.html?gclid=CM2viNTrvtQCFcVXDQod0ncCYA

Or this one?

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447099844&site_refer=CSE_GGLPRADS001&gclid=CM7Vx-HrvtQCFV5WDQod5_YFaA&gclsrc=aw.ds

NP here, nope, still not appropriate. Have sleeves doesn't make a totally skintight, thin-fabric dress appropriate for a MIDDLE. SCHOOL. GRADUATION.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NP here, nope, still not appropriate. Have sleeves doesn't make a totally skintight, thin-fabric dress appropriate for a MIDDLE. SCHOOL. GRADUATION.

I was just at my daughter's middle-school promotion ceremony. Boys were dressed in everything from T-shirts and shorts to suits and ties. Girls were dressed in everything from tops and shorts to dressy hijabs and robes to prom dresses and high high heels. So I'm thinking that pretty much everything is appropriate for a MIDDLE. SCHOOL. GRADUATION.

I enjoyed seeing the variety in styles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

How about this one?

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?Br=F21&Category=dress&ProductID=2000251643&VariantID=01&gclid=CPHSjrjrvtQCFVVMDQodGbYOew

Or this one?

http://www.oasap.com/bodycon-dresses/61660-classic-back-slit-ribbed-body-con-dress.html?gclid=CM2viNTrvtQCFcVXDQod0ncCYA

Or this one?

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447099844&site_refer=CSE_GGLPRADS001&gclid=CM7Vx-HrvtQCFV5WDQod5_YFaA&gclsrc=aw.ds

NP here, nope, still not appropriate. Have sleeves doesn't make a totally skintight, thin-fabric dress appropriate for a MIDDLE. SCHOOL. GRADUATION.

Yeah. agree. I'm a pretty open mom and I love for my daughter to dress/look high fashion, but all of those dresses would be an absolute no. MY dd wore a long white dress to graduation and 2 inch heels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just googled bodycon dress and based on the images that come up I'm struggling to see how OP could think this style of dress was appropriate for a 14-year-old.

How about this one?

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?Br=F21&Category=dress&ProductID=2000251643&VariantID=01&gclid=CPHSjrjrvtQCFVVMDQodGbYOew

Or this one?

http://www.oasap.com/bodycon-dresses/61660-classic-back-slit-ribbed-body-con-dress.html?gclid=CM2viNTrvtQCFcVXDQod0ncCYA

Or this one?

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447099844&site_refer=CSE_GGLPRADS001&gclid=CM7Vx-HrvtQCFV5WDQod5_YFaA&gclsrc=aw.ds

PP you're responding to, and I don't thin these dresses are appropriate for a middle school graduation or a 14 year old,