Why do young, single women sleep with married men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are disgusting and pathetic. No empathy, sympathy or psychoanalyzing from me.

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[Anonymous]

I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they are disgusting and pathetic. No empathy, sympathy or psychoanalyzing from me.

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I think you'd be surprised who you know who has done this. If you judge them this harshly I hope you also judge the married men sleeping with them.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who does this. She is afraid of intimacy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are disgusting and pathetic. No empathy, sympathy or psychoanalyzing from me.

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I think you'd be surprised who you know who has done this. If you judge them this harshly I hope you also judge the married men sleeping with them.

Actually, I wouldn't be surprised, and I think the married men are equally as pathetic and disgusting. I save my sympathy and understanding for actual victims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

You need to be angry at your husband and not at random women on the Internet. your husband willingly engaged in an affair. It's not like a woman held a gun to his head. You need to deal with your emotions and hurt. It's fine to be hurt. You should be. However, any anger you have should be towards got husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

You need to be angry at your husband and not at random women on the Internet. your husband willingly engaged in an affair. It's not like a woman held a gun to his head. You need to deal with your emotions and hurt. It's fine to be hurt. You should be. However, any anger you have should be towards got husband.

Which is exactly what she said. See it there in bold?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Good for you for not misplacing your anger. Not sure how anyone would go to 'I feel sorry for you' based on what you've written here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Good for you for not misplacing your anger. Not sure how anyone would go to 'I feel sorry for you' based on what you've written here.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

I did too. He was probably 20 years older than me. At that time it was the best sex I had ever had by a long shot. He ended up getting a divorce a few years after our affair had ended.

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

You seem to think cheating is a normal part of a relationship even if you got "angry"