guys are so weird

[Anonymous]

I call fake on the OP. Even in a large city filled with self-important people, it is hard to believe someone is this smug.

[Anonymous]

The expectations for contact are different for everyone. Remember that there isn't a guide book out there that everyone follows. If you date a lot, maybe that's the norm now. But if he doesn't date much, maybe he doesn't know that's what is expected now.

As a guy, we are told not to look too eager, so I usually will text or e-mail maybe the next evening if she hasn't already sent me a text or e-mail.

[Anonymous]

If a guy is interested he will contact you within a day. You can send a txt at the end of the night thanking him and saying you had a great time but that should be the only thing. Don't bother texting/ calling the next day because they will respond when and if they want to see you. If they had just as good of a time as you and wanted something serious then he would have contacted you. He waits more then 3day-a week then your nothing more then ass. Guys who like a chick don't play games unless they are younger then 24.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a guy is interested he will contact you within a day. You can send a txt at the end of the night thanking him and saying you had a great time but that should be the only thing. Don't bother texting/ calling the next day because they will respond when and if they want to see you. If they had just as good of a time as you and wanted something serious then he would have contacted you. He waits more then 3day-a week then your nothing more then ass. Guys who like a chick don't play games unless they are younger then 24.

Not true. Dating at the beginning IS a game. As a man, you need to look confident and busy and I'm not really looking for someone or you will get annihilated in the dating world.

[Anonymous]

when did not receiving an immediate response from a 10 AM TEXT the NEXT day after a date mean it's time to move on? OP, seriously, get a grip!

[Anonymous]

This thread is ridiculously mean. OP, you set yourself up for attack here by speaking too frankly. I suspect there are a lot of guys giving you hell on this. Take it easy, OP. You do sound a little to arrogant but I get what you are saying here. You may be encountering the phenom of the "fat guy who only thinks he deserves a centerfold perfect goddess." He's probably being totally unrealistic about what his options are. But you need to learn to wait and not be quite so arrogant, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculously mean. OP, you set yourself up for attack here by speaking too frankly. I suspect there are a lot of guys giving you hell on this. Take it easy, OP. You do sound a little to arrogant but I get what you are saying here. You may be encountering the phenom of the "fat guy who only thinks he deserves a centerfold perfect goddess." He's probably being totally unrealistic about what his options are. But you need to learn to wait and not be quite so arrogant, either.

Why are dating options always specified in terms of looks? There are many aspects that go into finding a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculously mean. OP, you set yourself up for attack here by speaking too frankly. I suspect there are a lot of guys giving you hell on this. Take it easy, OP. You do sound a little to arrogant but I get what you are saying here. You may be encountering the phenom of the "fat guy who only thinks he deserves a centerfold perfect goddess." He's probably being totally unrealistic about what his options are. But you need to learn to wait and not be quite so arrogant, either.

Why are dating options always specified in terms of looks? There are many aspects that go into finding a partner.

Propagation of the species. The goal of dating is to produce and provide resources for offspring to carry on the gene pool. Beauty is based on facial symmetry. Humans evolved to value facial symmetry because it is a factor believed to produce the fittest offspring.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but from the tone, OP clearly made it obvious that she considers herself to be a step above the guy, but that he's acceptable. He should feel honored that she considers him worthy of a second date. Honestly, guys can pick up on the "you're so lucky you found me" attitude from some women. And it's a turn off. That may be why OP will be waiting for the call/text that isn't coming.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with texting him. Oh, the rules are total bs. I didn't follow them, never have, and had more than one man propose to me. I did end up marrying. I asked my husband out first, too. The Rules women are all old divorced hags.

[Anonymous]

He's probably smarter than you, you bored him.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I guess my original post came off a little obnoxious, i didn't mean it that way. He did text, i guess he is a busy guy, which I like. We've been in a handful of dates and I really like him. He is really smart, funny and a total gentleman. Anyways, thanks for the advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I guess my original post came off a little obnoxious, i didn't mean it that way. He did text, i guess he is a busy guy, which I like. We've been in a handful of dates and I really like him. He is really smart, funny and a total gentleman. Anyways, thanks for the advice.

Is there potential with him?

[Anonymous]

he is amazing but a little on the chubby side and he perspirates a little too much, but he is great otherwise. I know i sound bitchy but I am just being honest
I do like him though.

[Anonymous]

You've been out a few times? How far in advance do you usually plan your dates?

Did you offer to pay? Did you tell him that you really like him?

Look, most guys won't just text unless it's about making plans. Usually if you go out, then add 3-5 days and if you STILL don't hear from them about planning your next outing, then they aren't that interested for whatever reason.

If you don't hear from him in a week, CALL him (no texting - dear god no texting) and ask him if he wants to go out. If he is 'too busy' (and it doesn't involve a wedding or travel somewhere or a killer work deadline), or makes excuses/says he'll call or text back and then doesn't, then you can either drop it or ask him for honesty on what's up. (And depending on his character, he may or may not give you an honest answer.)