Terrified at giving speech at friend's wedding.

[Anonymous]

I was just at a wedding this weekend and I wish everyone had taken the "keep it short" advise. They droned on and on.

[Anonymous]

If you are really that terrified, don't do it.

If its a very close friend, she should understand.

My best friend hates public speaking and would seriously need xanax to make it through even a 2 minute speech. I know this and would never force or guilt her into it.

[Anonymous]

I had to read some verses from a Buddhist(?) book. I practiced reading it out loud the night before in our hotel room. Then...AT the wedding she tells me she needs me to get up and give a toast (she did not have a MOH). Holy crap, I had to quickly come up with something in about an 45 minutes. I was glad the best-man went on forever. I don't remember what I said except for the punch line. Basically, that she traveled for work a lot and how hard it is to hit a moving target but that the groom "hit the bull's eye". surprisingly, both readings went well. I got lots of compliments. However, I have severe stage fright and it terrified me to no end.

[Anonymous]

I'd say go for a quick toast. This is especially good if the best man gives a longer, funny speech, or if any of the parents speaking are even remotely long-winded.

You could also say something about the statistics on people who fear public speaking. like "They say that 70% of people fear public speaking. I'm one of them. So this will be short and sweet. Drew and Dee - you two make it look easy. Congratulations!"

[Anonymous]

Second the suggestion for propranolol. It takes away the nervousness. Your Dr. should be willing to prescribe 3 or 4 pills -- it's way worth it.