Has anyone worked with couples counselor Andy Wald?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can he handle one spouse who has high functioning autism and lies/omits all the time? And is verbally abusive to change a subject?

Couples therapy isn’t recommended when there is abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be interested too have a session booked next week. My husbanD would respond better to the non mushy male type... So glad to hear that. We are hopeful and going to work hard at staying together post infidelity Issues and other issues too (goes without saying I guess)

I hope you are honest about the length and depth of your affair. If it ended recently and you are using “trickle truth”, you should know it’s possible the other spouse could reveal everything to your spouse. If you are doing this, you need everything on the table. Nothing worse to start working on it...only for him/her to find out new details down the road. It completely derails any prior progress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be interested too have a session booked next week. My husbanD would respond better to the non mushy male type... So glad to hear that. We are hopeful and going to work hard at staying together post infidelity Issues and other issues too (goes without saying I guess)

I hope you are honest about the length and depth of your affair. If it ended recently and you are using “trickle truth”, you should know it’s possible the other spouse could reveal everything to your spouse. If you are doing this, you need everything on the table. Nothing worse to start working on it...only for him/her to find out new details down the road. It completely derails any prior progress.

+1

Letting it trickle is “death by a thousand paper cuts” , described in many infidelity books.

Get the disclosure out at once. Most therapists are not good with this. It’s recommended you provide a written timeline.

I preferred hearing the ugly details at home prior to seeing therapy. IN FACT, it is MUCH better for cheater to have extensive individual therapy and the betrayed spouse their own therapist before either enters into Couples therapy together. It cannot be productive without that roof problem being dealt with individually.

[Anonymous]

^ root

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can he handle one spouse who has high functioning autism and lies/omits all the time? And is verbally abusive to change a subject?

Couples therapy isn’t recommended when there is abuse.

Or with liar. Too many Flying Monkey bad therapists.