Maybe I am weird but I felt oddly proud to be divorced and on my own. Can you change your mindset? |
This is such excellent advice! |
As a single mom, I have noticed this as well. God forbid my kid wants to set up a playdate and I have to approach the dad (who perhaps is the one at pickup) to give him my number. |
Divorce isn't something to be ashamed and proud of. It's a traumatic event for whole family and y'all should see a therapist and take some time to process. However, its time to move on and live your life. Your kids need you. Just dive back in and fake it until you feel comfortable. Good luck! |
Amen. I'm immigrant introvert who feels out of place at such occasions, DH was usually not available or too tired to attend so I always had to put on a social mask and endure. |
My husband is depressed so I attend many events solo. He would come to certain events but not others. There's no shame in being divorced and therapy may help you with this perception or the related anxiety.
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In the process of divorcing now, but I really relate to the bolded. We had no couple friends and only very occasionally socialized with coworkers. I’ve always been envious of those with couple friends, but spouse was extremely resistant. So I went alone to things or I didn’t go. I am now accepting every (there aren’t many) invitation that comes my way in an attempt to create a new life. I don’t worry about people seeing me as a threat, because I’m the opposite of OP. I worry more about seeming like a pitiable sad sack, so I fake being well-adjusted. If it is something you want to do, OP, be brave and do it. If it isn’t fun, you can easily leave. What’s the worst that can happen? |
This this and this |
It’s there, no,excuses, go,get it. |
Might be a good idea to join a support group for divorced women. |
Can you befriend other divorced parents? That’s what I’ve done.
Also, can you date, OP? |