Nope
Only a couple things when they fell in love in college and had that breakup two years later. Be their parent. Not their bestie in high school. Which you won’t ever be anyhow so don’t shoot your wad. |
Of course you should be honest with your teens. This is stupid question. |
I just give ridiculous answers, like I had my first kiss at 32. After I was born, my tween asked incredulously? Then we just laughed and moved on. For now. |
I would never. |
I would absolutely be honest.
“None of your business.” That’s very honest. |
I wouldn't want any decision or mistake I made as a teen to influence their decisions as a teen. I would avoid that conversation and instead focus on imparting the values I want to impart. |
+1 I would never want to know this stuff about my parents. Ick. |
Same here (except we met in high school). You can give general/some answers without giving every detail or lying. |
The none of your business parents are going to get the same type of convos with their own kids. They won’t feel comfortable enough to come to you because you don’t trust each other. |
+1 |
Exactly. They think they want to know but they really don't. |
Nope. None of this follows. If they want to know what they age their mother thinks is ok, they can ask that. Learning about parents' sexual activity opens a whole new world for children - a world where their parents are adults with their complex lives that often involve children. And, at this age, they don't actually need that. They need their parents as parents; a kind of one-sided creatures that care primarily about their children, not sex and certainly not males their children have no relation to. It is important to preserve that illusion and for parents to continue to exist as special people and a safe harbor rather than individuals with their own lives and urges. |
I remember asking my mom these questions, and while my kids haven't asked me directly, my response would be vague. "Oh gosh it's been so long ago, I don't remember exactly." Or, "I remember my first "real" boyfriend at 16, and I wish I had waited longer before being intimate and here's why..." |
This! |
I am going to guess your own parents were clueless about your teen decisions/mistakes and you are setting your kids up for the same terrible communication. Teens do not care about their parents values. |