Sensitive topic of other color, body odor and cultural food smell

[Anonymous]

I stayed at an Indian owned hotel in London years ago. I'm Chinese and grew up eating Chinese dinners complete with oily food smell all over the house. Despite that accustomization, this London booking reeked of old curry and sometimes it made me want to gag.
OK, back to my Chinese household. As a teen, I once lent a garment to a friend and she returned it saying how she loved smelling the Chinese flavors in the garment. She really meant it as a compliment but I was horrified.
I don't think it's rude to clue smelly people into their odorifics. Some people aren't aware of it and it would probably do them good to know so that people stop avoiding them. Mostly older men have this problem though.
My husband taught gut college classes for a while and he'd literally put on a lecture performance. The kids always clapped at the end of class but it really wore him out. Anyways, the students usually wanted to follow up with him after class and he noticed some would hold their nose or back away from him. He realized that his breath smelled. 1 hour of constant talking without liquid replenishment can bring on halitosis. So he started to take water breaks and bring breath mints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Expose her to tacos and fried rice she probably is only associated to bland food

Fried rice is pretty bland. Is that the best you could come up with?

[Anonymous]

She’s not used to stinky BO and bad hygiene. There’s nothing wrong with your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our private daycare has kids that are mostly white, some asian and indian. The other day, DD5 made a shocking comment to me that that black boy looks different and scary to her. She also commented the other day it is stinky when she was near a Hispanic adult man. She covered her nose and hid behind me. I think it was probably body odor or oily hair gel something. I corrected her immediately on the side that it was mean/rude to say, and it would make others upset. She asked why and she did not like my answer. According to the data now, our home elementary school is mostly white, more hispanic kids in home middle school, and more black kids in home high school. Our neighborhood is mostly white. Any tips to teach her on this topic? To her at this age, it is not really racial discrimination, and it is just that she does not like some looks or some smell but those traits happen to be related to some race. She is sensitive to smell and she loves those princess on books/tv and they happen to be mostly in lighter color. She makes stinky comments about some of my cooking as well, and I hope that she does not make any comment if other kids bring their homecooked lunchbox sitting next to her at school one day.

In this day and age, you should have been teaching her about color blindness long ago. She sounds like a mean girl in training.

[Anonymous]

Normalize difference. Read picture books with black main characters. Buy brown dolls. If she won’t play with them, make it clear you love them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stayed at an Indian owned hotel in London years ago. I'm Chinese and grew up eating Chinese dinners complete with oily food smell all over the house. Despite that accustomization, this London booking reeked of old curry and sometimes it made me want to gag.
OK, back to my Chinese household. As a teen, I once lent a garment to a friend and she returned it saying how she loved smelling the Chinese flavors in the garment. She really meant it as a compliment but I was horrified.
I don't think it's rude to clue smelly people into their odorifics. Some people aren't aware of it and it would probably do them good to know so that people stop avoiding them. Mostly older men have this problem though.
My husband taught gut college classes for a while and he'd literally put on a lecture performance. The kids always clapped at the end of class but it really wore him out. Anyways, the students usually wanted to follow up with him after class and he noticed some would hold their nose or back away from him. He realized that his breath smelled. 1 hour of constant talking without liquid replenishment can bring on halitosis. So he started to take water breaks and bring breath mints.

Gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normalize difference. Read picture books with black main characters. Buy brown dolls. If she won’t play with them, make it clear you love them.

You had me until the brown dolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our private daycare has kids that are mostly white, some asian and indian. The other day, DD5 made a shocking comment to me that that black boy looks different and scary to her. She also commented the other day it is stinky when she was near a Hispanic adult man. She covered her nose and hid behind me. I think it was probably body odor or oily hair gel something. I corrected her immediately on the side that it was mean/rude to say, and it would make others upset. She asked why and she did not like my answer. According to the data now, our home elementary school is mostly white, more hispanic kids in home middle school, and more black kids in home high school. Our neighborhood is mostly white. Any tips to teach her on this topic? To her at this age, it is not really racial discrimination, and it is just that she does not like some looks or some smell but those traits happen to be related to some race. She is sensitive to smell and she loves those princess on books/tv and they happen to be mostly in lighter color. She makes stinky comments about some of my cooking as well, and I hope that she does not make any comment if other kids bring their homecooked lunchbox sitting next to her at school one day.

Wait… but you’re actually the racist… not your kid. Your kid didn’t like the way someone smelled and you made the leap that Hispanic people smell differently and that’s what your kid was reacting to. Some people smell bad… it’s really rude to point it out. But you’re the racist. lol. Great topic. A+ thanks for posting.