She needs to move to live with family to get back on her feet. She can get a job at Target or similar and then try for something better. The kids will have to go to dad for holidays and summers. |
Offer to take all her kids for 6-12 months while she gets a job up and running. Offer to take some of them long term. |
Sounds like sibling is lazy. I would offer to take the kids and would not send any money or pay any of their bills. |
+1 Don't start helping them. It will only end with you being bitter and resentful. Your siblings will want to see you as an equal and friend because hey that is what siblings are supposed to be, but you will begin to only see them as a parasite. |
Does your sibling want your help? Has she asked for your help? |
Can she work as a nanny? |
I’m familiar with this situation in my family. When the judge determined alimony/ child support they imputed $20,000 as her earnings ability (early 2000s), suggesting it was expected she should work. Her response, to us, was by the time she drove to the job, put gas in her car and had to rush to pick up her kids it was not financially worthwhile, so
stay at home it was. |
Can you help the kids directly? Buy them clothes, shoes, school supplies etc? Pay for their swim lessons? |
shouldn’t the dad pay for his kids? |
I would't it's called enabling. |
While these are all great programs, don't you have to be on disability to be eligible for Medicaid, food stamps, and so on? The government doesn't just hand out help to people who don't want to work. OP hasn't mentioned any physical or mental disabilities. |
How old are the kids? |
If Dad is able to sure, but if not, this is a way of helping kids without enabling the sister. |
Nope. They need to get a job. To the extent you can host the young cousins ever, do that. But do not start a precedent of funding your adult siblings life or issues. If they need welfare help them sign up for all their benefits or direct them to NGOs who can help. You have more than enough stuff to be saving you and your spouses income for for now and the future (401k, 529s, IRAs, emergency funds, retirement, elderly care, family vacations, kids ECs, travel, etc.) |
What does this mean? The ex doesn’t pay their court ordered child support or split the kid bills?? |