You can absolutely knock on their door and introduce yourself! People on DCUM are so antisocial and afraid of offending that they issue the most ridiculous advice, sometimes.
We are a multiethnic family, and our best friends adopted a child from another ethnicity. None of us would find it in the least offensive if people make mistaken assumptions about our origins, our children's origins or whatever else! Families like us are open-minded and have been asked so many questions so many times, it's perfectly fine! You can mention that your kid is adopted and you have a meet-up group of adoptive families. See how they react to that... |
OP, forget about The Club, for now. Knock on their door. You have children of similar age. Introduce yourself. That would be normal. Get to know each other. When you get to know each other, the discussion of adoption will come up eventually. |
Support Group, Club .. whatever you called it. |
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We are a multiethnic family and my DH and I would find it weird if a stranger knocked on our door just because they are a multiethnic family too. If we meet them out in the neighborhood, strike up conversation, great. |
Multi ethnic, adoptive family here too. I’m used to questions, some people are curious about the makeup of our family.
If I moved to a new area & anyone knocked on my door & was friendly, I’d be happy to meet them. If they were offering a kind invite to anything, I would also be happy. Maybe it works for us or maybe it doesn’t, but I would welcome the kindness. |
Adoptive patents have a natural bond with other adoptive parents.
Don’t listen to people who have no idea what they are talking about. I would not knock on anyone’s door unexpectedly, but maybe leave a note in their mailbox saying that you heard there was another adoptive family in the community and wanted to welcome them. |
Transracial international adult adoptee AND international adoptive parent here.
I would find it well-meaning but very off-putting if someone knocked on my door or asked pointed questions. As a child, I never wanted to meet another adoptee simply because they were also adopted. I would knock to be friendly but I certainly wouldn’t bring up adoption (and you never know if the child is actually adopted or what the situation is). |
Go over, with your child and introduce yourselves. Bring a bouquet of flowers to welcome them to the neighborhood. When they see you are white and your child is AA, unless they are blind, they will surmise that your child is adopted. |