This is too bad and not my experience with MCPS. But I grew up in Takoma Park— not Potomac or “North Potomac” (name change will never not be funny to me). We made fun of the snobs at the W schools. (I know there’s plenty to make fun of regarding Takoma Park.) I had a fantastic experience and education at Blair. I’d say Silver Spring fits the bill for OP but there are crazy people everywhere. |
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I live in an Upper NW neighborhood that feeds into Deal and I haven't come across anything like OP describes. I'm sure that there were some like that at my kid's ES and at Deal but I just did my own thing and met other parents who were friendly, down to earth, and chill. I think PPs are correct in look to find a place that you like, and then find the people who share similar values. The DMV does have a lot of type-A, super ambitious people who live here, but that doesn't mean everyone is like that. You don't have to enter the kid rat race if you don't want to; it's not mandatory. |
Most helicopter parents are worried about keeping their own kids on track and don’t really have opinions on what you do. They don’t care if your kid did his homework, they care about theirs. They don’t care if you walk your kid to school, they just ensure they supervise theirs. The ones you should be worried about are the competitive parents. They’re at Whitman and Wootton. |
We live in 20906, not the richest area of MoCo, and have no problems like the ones you list OP. |
That’s true about helicopter parents but their intense competitiveness sucks the air out of the room. They are annoying to be around. I don’t blame OP for not wanting to be in an area full of them. |
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+1 20906 is not snobby. Some of the nicest people who are very neighborly while keeping a live and let live attitude. Also very diverse age/income/ethnicity mix that feels natural and not balkanized. |
I was actually going to say consider western Loudoun if it’s not too far out for you (Purcellville, Round Hill, etc). |
I was thinking Burke/Springfield as well. It’s what counts as middle class around here. |
These are all exaggerated stereotypes by someone who is probably too sensitive. Yes, people here are competitive, but most are also just generally nice people living theirs lives. And I can't imagine anyone calling CPS because you let your kid walk to school, lol - get over yourself. |
Yes, but the OP is ironically just as full of judgement. |
OP-here is what I figured out by living in Vienna-it's about how inner circle more than the neighborhood. My kids are in AAP (the GT program in FCPS) and even within the program, there is a range of parents and kids. It just takes a conscious effort to not buy into the madness. Yes peers are important but I've noticed that the uber stressed out kids crying about an A-/getting into Algebra/TJ usually have intense parents. |
Contrary to what people here think, I experienced very little of that while raising my children in the McLean HS district. I don’t know of anyone who had CPS called on them and man6 kids walk to school. The Karens are easy to avoid. |
Also live in Annandale outside the Beltway and you and I must define helicoptering differently, or we're at different schools. I know 2nd graders who walk to and from school alone (K is the only grade that must be picked up by an adult, per FCPS rules). Pressure to get kids into AAP is entirely peer group dependent. There are some sports strivers, but they don't judge anyone who is not like them - as a PP said they are too busy with what they are already doing. Same with music. The few families that are on an intense track don't care that my kids aren't. They care that their own kids are excelling. I'm sure our school has some obnoxious parents, but teacher turnover doesn't seem excessively high. |