No, it's not normal to be gay. Just because you're accepted and treated "normally" doesn't mean it's normal to be gay. Gays and lesbians are a very small minority, which by default means they are not normal. You are redefining the meaning of normal. Same with red hair, it's not normal to have it even if they are still a presence. We also exist in a world that is designed around the most common denominator: straight people and especially straight people who go on to marry and have children. Although recent social and political changes have given gays and lesbians greater access to this common denominator, most still exist outside it. I'm 42 and virtually no gay man or lesbian I've met across my life has ever felt "normal" because we do see and feel the exclusions all the time. It doesn't matter what some progressive "allied to LGTBT+" teacher in a school pretends, this is just the reality. No straight person has ever wondered why they are straight but every single gay and lesbian has and usually still continues to wonder why they are gay/lesbian. And that tells you what you need to know about reality. We're aware we are not.... "normal." It doesn't mean we think we're dysfunctional or terrible, we're just not "normal." But it is what it is and it is not going to change. The social, cultural and political weight gravitates enormously to the common denominator and those who don't fit it will always be outside it to some extent. |
Couldn't agree more about how the world is designed around a common, straight denominator. At least for me, being gay is like living a parallel life - gay bars, gay dating, doctors who are knowledgeable about gay health issues....and the list goes on. And if I travel to another city, wondering how safe I would be if I did visit a gay bar? |
I came here to say something similar. She didn’t stop talking to you because you were gay. She was embarrassed that she asked you out and you said no. |