Most people on Earth think like this. You're the outlier. |
You can invite anyone you want and exclude anyone you want.
But I do think that weddings are about joining families and kids are part of families. |
This. |
Oh get off it. I am Indian and love our big festive weddings with kids but this couple is going for a different vibe and that is totally their prerogative. I agree the 12yo shouldn’t be invited and any family members who make a big deal out of it are bonkers. The 12yo can even stay home alone in a pinch. OP, you can go the extra mile of locating and offering up babysitters. Or, don’t and everyone will forget about this controversy in a few days. Don’t cancel your plans! |
Yes, you're wrong. But you're calling the shots, for once. Interesting how people use that power... |
It's their constipated prerogative, I totally agree! Your guests are rolling their eyes, but you won't make lifelong enemies, OP, don't worry - your event is not that important. Do whatever the heck you want. |
Tell me more about the bolded. If a couple's child tragically dies are they supposed to crank out a replacement child? If a couple has infertility issues and can't have kids should they get divorced? What if a couple doesn't want kids but needs to get married to get the other's health insurance - is that okay? What if a couple gets married and THEN changes their minds and they don't want kids after all - do they have to go ahead and have some or should they just get a hasty divorce? |
OP, there are 2 I-have-no-identity-without-my-kids PPs who are hammering the thread. You are having a small dinner. You invite who you want. I think it's the giant celebrations with a band and dancing that kids can be a wonderful part of. But definitely not a small dinner.
Sorry there are people who care more about themselves than celebrating your marriage. All they have to say is Congrats, enjoy. We have no ability to get a babysitter, so we can't join. |
The people who say the only point of getting married is to have kids don't like their spouses and would rather be divorced. |
I got married over 20 years ago and had a no kids wedding. We provided a sitter. I now have kids, I love my kids, but I do not think that every event must cater to the fact that I have kids. Those that crow about their kIdS aren’t thinking about you and your day. |
PP again. My sister has been married for a decade and they aren’t having kids. My SIL too. Not everyone marries for breeding purposes. |
OK, so what's your explanation for some form of marriage cross-culturally existing in every society? I mean, it seems kind of funny that this is basically a universal human institution, isn't it? |
You aren't wrong but not everyone has access to a trusted sitter or child care. We'd be fine with it but we'd decline or only one of us would go. |
Nope. |
Your wedding, your choice.
Hold the line at no kids, period. But accept that some people won't come. |