Would you be concerned if your boyfriend sent you a "joke" about how men cheat on women?
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Anonymous
| Don't have a relationship over text. Just because you're in your 20's doesn't mean you have to "communicate with memes." |
Anonymous
| He could have just been joking. If anything you should maybe feel MORE confident with him. Clearly he can pull other women but chooses to stay with you. The guys you have to be worry about are the nerds who will lose their mind at the slightest drop of female attention since they never got any |
Anonymous
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Yeah no.
If DH sent me that, I'd probably think it was funny. If I was in your shoes, dating this guy who is talking to a bunch of other women and he sent that meme I'd definitely be pissed. I do think that's a red flag for sure. I'd start extricating yourself now, but don't necessarily tell him. Go look at apartments (or talk to friends who can host you short term), and set a date to leave. That may differ depending on if youre in a lease (named?) or whatever. But please don't settle for this guy. |
Anonymous
| He may like you the most right now, but sooner or later he'll probably cheat and is setting that up so when it happens you wont be as shocked or taken aback. He's trying to chip away at your boundaries |
Anonymous
| I would be concerned if he "communicated to me via memes" in the first place |
Anonymous
| He’s taunting you. |
Anonymous
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Im the first PP who has a friend / ex like this. He may not be a bad guy, he’s just not someone you want to hitch your wagon to if you want a monogamous relationship. You know this, OP. It will take strength to untangle yourself but think about the rest of your life. He’s not going to change.
On the plus side, I assure you there are men who are great in bed and who do not also want to sleep with five women at a time. And you’re never too old, certainly not now! Good luck. |
Anonymous
Nah. This guy will cheat if he gets married, I would put thousands on that. This type is great to have as a fun friend but that’s it. -46 y.o. married woman here, been around the block, seen this type across generations |
Anonymous
| Every joke has a level of truth to it. This is one of those moments you’ll look back on in the future and say “I should have left then” |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
^This. It’s what my husband did. He was so good looking, funny and charming and I was so in love with him that I buried this part of him and thought marriage/kids would cause him to settle….not. He saw a lot of bad behavior growing up and gravitated towards friends thar had similar lack of values around cheating. |
Anonymous
| At the bare minimum, he’s an inconsiderate a hole; since you told him you’re insecure about it and he sent that anyway. And at worst he’s a manipulative, strategic jerk, knowingly planting seeds about him cheating before he does. Neither is good. |
Anonymous
| I actually wouldn’t be worried. I laugh at all kinds of crazy memes and jokes, doesn’t mean I’m engaging in that behavior |
Anonymous
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I think it is inappropriate that your live-in partner is not only discussing his exes w/you, but also that he is still in communication w/some of them too.
It IS very disrespectful of him to behave in this manner & I can completely see how doing these things can trigger emotional reactions from you. He sounds immature to me…..and even a tad bit insecure. I mention that he seems insecure because he is always mentioning other girls to you. Some guys do not feel secure on their own - some feel that by mentioning they are in contact w/other women makes them seem like a great “catch.” 🔥 If he continues communicating w/his exes, I would re-evaluate your relationship w/him. Wishing you only the best of luck! |