A kid got kicked out from daycare

[Anonymous]

In my kid's room, there were 2-3 biters and everybody understood it was within age appropriate, you cannot be serious about kicking a 14 month old baby out for biting, lol. The only reason can be non payment, late pick ups, and rude or aggressive parents.

[Anonymous]

It sounds crazy but several daycares have a 3 strikes and you are out rule with biters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds crazy but several daycares have a 3 strikes and you are out rule with biters.

If a child breaks skin we send the child home .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid got kicked out for having a developmental delay.

He didn’t have behavior problems and certainly wasn’t violent. He just kind of zoned out and didn’t participate in the crafts and activities. Like if the class was cutting out shapes he would walk over to the cars. Things like that.

At what age did he get kicked out? My kid is 20 months with a slight developmental delay. Hes still not saying many words and doesn't seem to follow directions as well as other kids.

He was 3 years old.

Also, I’m kind of surprised that so many people are in such disbelief that a child would get kicked out for a developmental delay. He had a speech delay (and probably autism — we’re on a waitist for diagnosis) but zero aggression. The entire problem was that he did not engage with the class so they felt it wasn’t a good fit for him. I was told he could stay until the end of the month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid got kicked out for having a developmental delay.

He didn’t have behavior problems and certainly wasn’t violent. He just kind of zoned out and didn’t participate in the crafts and activities. Like if the class was cutting out shapes he would walk over to the cars. Things like that.

At what age did he get kicked out? My kid is 20 months with a slight developmental delay. Hes still not saying many words and doesn't seem to follow directions as well as other kids.

He was 3 years old.

Also, I’m kind of surprised that so many people are in such disbelief that a child would get kicked out for a developmental delay. He had a speech delay (and probably autism — we’re on a waitist for diagnosis) but zero aggression. The entire problem was that he did not engage with the class so they felt it wasn’t a good fit for him. I was told he could stay until the end of the month.

I can see “kicking” a child out that appears really unhappy in the setting. I’ve heard about babies that cried non-stop being kicked out. Maybe they worried that it was a bad setting for your kiddo. Sometimes it can be worse not to get kicked out. We ended kicking ourselves out from a horrible public PK program - would have saved MUCH stress if we had gotten kicked out earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid got kicked out for having a developmental delay.

He didn’t have behavior problems and certainly wasn’t violent. He just kind of zoned out and didn’t participate in the crafts and activities. Like if the class was cutting out shapes he would walk over to the cars. Things like that.

At what age did he get kicked out? My kid is 20 months with a slight developmental delay. Hes still not saying many words and doesn't seem to follow directions as well as other kids.

He was 3 years old.

Also, I’m kind of surprised that so many people are in such disbelief that a child would get kicked out for a developmental delay. He had a speech delay (and probably autism — we’re on a waitist for diagnosis) but zero aggression. The entire problem was that he did not engage with the class so they felt it wasn’t a good fit for him. I was told he could stay until the end of the month.

I can see “kicking” a child out that appears really unhappy in the setting. I’ve heard about babies that cried non-stop being kicked out. Maybe they worried that it was a bad setting for your kiddo. Sometimes it can be worse not to get kicked out. We ended kicking ourselves out from a horrible public PK program - would have saved MUCH stress if we had gotten kicked out earlier.

Yeah, I’m the poster whose kid got kicked out and I’m over it. I want to emphasize that they were really nice about it and tried to say we could try again next year, and things like that.

But still, the end result is the kid was kicked out. He was not welcome to come back the next month.

[Anonymous]

Is behavioral issues, strong will, biting hitting kids and adults

[Anonymous]

For the programs that "kick out" kids, are these feeders to elite private schools?

The only way I could see a kid getting kicked out is if there was a legitimate safety issue. But kicking out a kid for developmental delays is simply horrible - it really upends the parents' life. Finding care is really hard if you're two working parents.

I'd really be tempted to name & shame publicly online.

[Anonymous]

Non-payment, aggressive behaviors, elopement. These are the kind of things that get you kicked out of daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Non-payment, aggressive behaviors, elopement. These are the kind of things that get you kicked out of daycare.

Wut?

[Anonymous]

I've seen nonpayment, biting/hitting, and multiple late pickups. Most of the preschools that we preview/attended or friends attended had policies like 3 late pickups and they reserved the right to take the child out of the program. It usually depended on if they had kids on the wait list that could fill the spot.

I also knew one kid that did get excused for essentially a developmental delay. The child would not participate in group learning, circle time, etc. Not violent, but seemingly on the spectrum with attention issues. It was hard for the teacher to have to pay attention to multiple children in a group and one off on the side doing his own thing. She tried to encourage him to at least sit with the group, but he wouldn't. And it was distracting the other kids asking why he could play with those toys and they couldn't. The teacher tried for about 3 weeks and then they excused him from the program. So, yes, developmental delays can be disruptive for a class and kids can be removed for having them. Most preschools do not have the staffing to handle 1:1 learning or to care for one child outside the group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Non-payment, aggressive behaviors, elopement. These are the kind of things that get you kicked out of daycare.

Wut?

What does elopement mean in education?
Elopement is defined as a student leaving an assigned area without permission from or knowledge of staff, often to escape and/or avoid a school-related situation or task.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the programs that "kick out" kids, are these feeders to elite private schools?

The only way I could see a kid getting kicked out is if there was a legitimate safety issue. But kicking out a kid for developmental delays is simply horrible - it really upends the parents' life. Finding care is really hard if you're two working parents.

I'd really be tempted to name & shame publicly online.

I haven't seen any programs that don't have some sort of expulsion policy. Sometimes, a school truly cannot effectively support a child with disabilities. It is difficult for the child but most preschool/daycare programs are private programs and do not have this obligation nor do they have funding to serve all needs. That being said there is significant variation in daycare/preschool policies. Our daycare emphasizes they train their teachers to address difficult behaviors and that expulsion/counseling out would be a last resort. Another very well regarded daycare I know has a policy that basically says they can expel anyone at any time at their discretion. I have observed that expensive/elite preschools have a tendency to be less inclusive than your average daycare. Obviously, there will be exceptions. Some require families to hire one-on-one aides for their kids if they want to stay. It's not easy being a special needs parent.