Yes. Grow up lady. |
yes invite him. he may not com |
Nobody is dying to sit at a boring graduation ceremony. Just let it go. |
As others have said, it’s up to your son. If you don’t feel like inviting him, fine. But if your son, who is presumably 21/22 and an adult, wants to invite him that is out of your hands.
Don’t start using the “I paid for it all alone” line with him now. You did it because you wanted to, right? Not to hang over his head for the rest of his life that he owes it to you to never talk to his dad, right? Look your ex sounds like a loser. But stay on the high road. You’ve made it this far. |
In place of your husband I’d say no. In addition to you both? It’s up to your son. Did they spend time together and do they have a relationship? |
Invite him, but dang ! you told him the wrong date |
I’d say nothing. Wouldn’t ask son nor ex.
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My Mom paid for college, she invited my Dad. I treasure the photo I have with him (he died when I was in my 20s). |
Enjoy the graduation ceremony as much as you can, you sound like someone who isn't going to be getting invited to much of your son's life from here on out. |
When you paid for your son’s college, did you tell him that the money comes with your veto power attached? |
It’s up to your son. This is his achievement, not your. |
I will be candid since this is anonymous. I totally disagree with you. It is also my achievement. Raising him by myself with no money from his dad. Were it not for me, he is not in college, let alone graduating. Were it up to his father, he'd possibly be in jail. Who knows. |
This post is right. Lady, you sound like you're looking for a fight. Aren't you happy that you paid for college for your son? Why are you going to launch your son's adulthood with a motherly guilt trip? You're going to ruin his graduation, his accomplishment. Because you're so obsessed with making sure your ex husband (and father of your child) doesn't receive any false credit. YOU need to grow up, OP. |
If the kid wants him there. |
I don't forbid him from communicating with his dad or having whatever relationship they do or don't have. I don't even speak about his father. But specific to this achievement, this very costly achievement I paid for and I raised him to be prepared for, why should the deadbeat share any of the ceremony? And bring along his wife so he can dupe her into thinking he had anything to do with it. He was a pure detriment to this for the last 22 years. I'm a bit surprised so many of you are saying he should be there and be allowed to bask in the milestone. |