Anesthesia for FET

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Anonymous wrote:Omg no. You sound unstable. I had no pain relief for the retrieval and certainly nothing for the transfer. If you can’t handle tgat, how do you plan to have a kid?

No pain relief for ER is insane. Our clinics regular protocol is anesthesia unless your BMI is over 45. And as for the transfer, thankfully I have a really compassionate doctor who offered anesthesia because she knows I how painful insertion is physically and emotionally from sexually trauma. Also you know your body dilates right? It's not at all the same as a cold ass speculum. I feel sorry for you and whoever is forced to be around you

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I’ve had so many FETs and they have never taken five min. Usually like one minute max. I was with SG though and they did a practice run so maybe that’s why it went so fast.

+1

I absolutely hate pap smears and clench up in pain but I didn't feel the FETs at all.

That is reassuring. My Dr did a trial run with a speculum this am and got it placed. She still suggested anesthesia worried the day if there might be a cervix issue or if it didn't work she want me blaming myself that I clenched or didn't relax enough or that we didn't place correctly. If I'm under she can put it in the absolute.perfect spot without also managing my pain.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

[Anonymous]

OP - I think you should pay for the anesthesia because it will give you peace of mind on a stressful day. The stress of fertility treatments and the hormonal roller coaster from meds can amplify our natural tendencies to tense up or feel pain. That is not your fault and I am glad to hear your provider is being sensitive to your concerns. I hope your FET is successful!

To all the haters who are being smug about their different experience - shame on you! There are so many reasons a person might need fertility treatments, but many involve shame and guilt over having the “wrong” body or a “broken” body. OP’s body doesn’t tolerate vaginal insertion or manipulation of the cervix very well. Thankfully we live in a day and age when medical technology is available to help her achieve her goal of carrying a pregnancy and giving birth. No one is “better” because they conceived without assistance or underwent procedures without any pain relief or anesthesia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Not OP, but she can have a scheduled C section. Maybe she is working with a pain specialist, but doesn’t have years to wait to get pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Yeah physically and structurally I'm perfect. Not anything abnormal that would be causing the pain. No Endo, no scarring, no curve. They believe it's PTSD related. In theory I can do these things it's just very hard so I'd probably wait and see how it goes and opt for a section of needed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I think you should pay for the anesthesia because it will give you peace of mind on a stressful day. The stress of fertility treatments and the hormonal roller coaster from meds can amplify our natural tendencies to tense up or feel pain. That is not your fault and I am glad to hear your provider is being sensitive to your concerns. I hope your FET is successful!

To all the haters who are being smug about their different experience - shame on you! There are so many reasons a person might need fertility treatments, but many involve shame and guilt over having the “wrong” body or a “broken” body. OP’s body doesn’t tolerate vaginal insertion or manipulation of the cervix very well. Thankfully we live in a day and age when medical technology is available to help her achieve her goal of carrying a pregnancy and giving birth. No one is “better” because they conceived without assistance or underwent procedures without any pain relief or anesthesia.

Thank you for this. It's very kind of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Yeah physically and structurally I'm perfect. Not anything abnormal that would be causing the pain. No Endo, no scarring, no curve. They believe it's PTSD related. In theory I can do these things it's just very hard so I'd probably wait and see how it goes and opt for a section of needed

A doctor is saying this is all in your head?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Not OP, but she can have a scheduled C section. Maybe she is working with a pain specialist, but doesn’t have years to wait to get pregnant?

Yes thank you. C section is on the table for sure if we ever get to that point. There is an incredible center for this kind of pain in our city that we have started on and they make dilator kits to help your tolerance. All well and good but we don't have time to pause and do that right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Yeah physically and structurally I'm perfect. Not anything abnormal that would be causing the pain. No Endo, no scarring, no curve. They believe it's PTSD related. In theory I can do these things it's just very hard so I'd probably wait and see how it goes and opt for a section of needed

A doctor is saying this is all in your head?!

Multiple OBs have run tests, examined, my REI who I love and trust more than anyone right now has also said no structural issues with my cervix, uterus...there is no physical reason for the pain I have. Besides clenching and tightening and going into a trauma response. PTSD and body memory is real.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Yeah physically and structurally I'm perfect. Not anything abnormal that would be causing the pain. No Endo, no scarring, no curve. They believe it's PTSD related. In theory I can do these things it's just very hard so I'd probably wait and see how it goes and opt for a section of needed

A doctor is saying this is all in your head?!

Multiple OBs have run tests, examined, my REI who I love and trust more than anyone right now has also said no structural issues with my cervix, uterus...there is no physical reason for the pain I have. Besides clenching and tightening and going into a trauma response. PTSD and body memory is real.

While I have no doubt, I also want to tell you what horse sh&t! Pain IS real. Please seek a pelvic pain specialist. There is Botox and other treatments that an OB would know nothing about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I feel bad for you. That's horrible. But also how would you ever give birth? Have you ever had this addressed with a pelvic pain specialist?

Yeah physically and structurally I'm perfect. Not anything abnormal that would be causing the pain. No Endo, no scarring, no curve. They believe it's PTSD related. In theory I can do these things it's just very hard so I'd probably wait and see how it goes and opt for a section of needed

A doctor is saying this is all in your head?!

Multiple OBs have run tests, examined, my REI who I love and trust more than anyone right now has also said no structural issues with my cervix, uterus...there is no physical reason for the pain I have. Besides clenching and tightening and going into a trauma response. PTSD and body memory is real.

While I have no doubt, I also want to tell you what horse sh&t! Pain IS real. Please seek a pelvic pain specialist. There is Botox and other treatments that an OB would know nothing about.

Thanks. I have a friend that is a pelvic floor therapist and I haven't seen her or a colleague formally but she advised waiting until we were in the clear and discharged from our IVF clinic. There is nothing they can do right now. Just sit tight.

[Anonymous]

I had FETs sedated at SGF. I told a friend of mine who was an SGF patient years before me. She didn't know it was an option and she said she wish she was given the sedated option. She said her FET took forever and was rather painful.

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Just wondering if OP got pregnant.

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OP here- yes currently 18 weeks.

I'm very glad we used anesthesia. I posted when it happened in another thread. They used versed which I wouldn't use again - I had amnesia from the versed in until I woke up. I hated that feeling of missing time. Previous anesthesia procedures I remember seeing my Dr and anesthesiologist and being in the procedure room..I have a memory of counting down to my nap. That threw me for a loop but our Dr was able to take her time and get placement right without worrying about my pain threshold.