If you have 3 kids are you a "show off"?

[Anonymous]

It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

[Anonymous]

This is not the first place I have heard of this -- it is a big trend in NYC right now. It is a status symbol to be able to afford 3 children and not have it make a dent in your lifestyle (private schools, vacations, various homes etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

Exactly! But now it's 4-5 kids!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

Exactly! But now it's 4-5 kids!!

Yes, I'm sorry, you're right. More kids pictured on their Christmas cards each year!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

I'm not sure that three or more children is that uncommon in the DC area. In our child's preschool class of 15 children, at least six families (including ours) have three children. Yes, our older children do attend private school, but we're not at all as you've described above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

I'm not sure that three or more children is that uncommon in the DC area. In our child's preschool class of 15 children, at least six families (including ours) have three children. Yes, our older children do attend private school, but we're not at all as you've described above.

No, actually we are not describing you, probably. It's more of a NY/CT thing that we're describing. It goes beyond just having three children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It nicely captures a subset of wealthy NY-area families: the whole Town and Country type: blonde, waspy, preppy, beautiful, with three tow-headed children dressed in Lily and Vineyard Vines and brightly colored cotton monogrammed sweaters.

Dad works in finance. Mom stays at home. They drive a Range Rover.

I'm not sure that three or more children is that uncommon in the DC area. In our child's preschool class of 15 children, at least six families (including ours) have three children. Yes, our older children do attend private school, but we're not at all as you've described above.

No, actually we are not describing you, probably. It's more of a NY/CT thing that we're describing. It goes beyond just having three children.

Plus we didn't mention private school. There are incredible public schools in the neighborhoods described above.

[Anonymous]

I associate large families with poverty and undereducation. So we have large families on both ends of the income range now?

[Anonymous]

The barbell strikes again!

[Anonymous]

I don't think they are being showoffs -- I read somewhere that "3 is the new 2" they are just trying to be fashionable!!

[Anonymous]

This is definitely a true-to-life trend in NYC and southwestern CT....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a true-to-life trend in NYC and southwestern CT....

Do you mean southeast CT: Greenwich, Darien, Westport, etc.? Either way, I agree with you completely. A lot of finance/hedge fund money.

[Anonymous]

Question - didn't many of you think about how many children you wanted well before starting to have children. In college we used to talk about it from time to time. Not that it has worked out the way most of us thought it would. But I have always wanted a big family - not being trendy - just wanted 4 or 5 kids. I have always enjoyed working with children and raising them has been better than I would have imagined.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if the trend has more to do with having children later. I know several moms who were on the fence about having a third but since time was almost up they went ahead. When your youngest is no longer a baby its natural to get that sadness about no babies. Younger moms can decide to wait a few years and by then the baby yearning is replaced with realizing you don't want to go back to doing diapers.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has a good friend smack in the middle of it (hedge fund $) I can tell you it is not. As posted earlier, it is a trend among the super wealthy to show they can afford 3 kids, a nanny for each, private school for all, private plane and so on. I knew her for years before she met this guy and never said anything about wanting Three ...