Around what ages are teens getting sexually active nowadays?

[Anonymous]

My spouse & I are both immigrants from a more conservative country.

We have a 12 & 14 year old ( boy & girl) and are curious as to what to expect in the coming years. For those who have older teens, what has been your experience ?

TIA

[Anonymous]

Per DD, a few are active by the time they're 12, and more by 14, although the ones that started at 12 seem to have stopped. Most studies show that teens are delaying sex and average age is something like 17 (IIRC).

Also keep in mind that what a teen considers sex generally involves penetration, and they do not consider BJs and oral sex to be sex.

[Anonymous]

I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

This seems about right to me.

Most of my DD's friends (she is a senior) have not had sex and some have. The ones who have had sex have a long-term boyfriend in later high school years (junior/senior) OR date a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Per DD, a few are active by the time they're 12, and more by 14, although the ones that started at 12 seem to have stopped. Most studies show that teens are delaying sex and average age is something like 17 (IIRC).

Also keep in mind that what a teen considers sex generally involves penetration, and they do not consider BJs and oral sex to be sex.

12 and even 14 year olds having sex is so depressing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

[Anonymous]

If they are in private school, bump it up two years earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

This is similar to what I have seen as well. The kids with lots of time on their hands and inadequate supervision, are into all sorts of things (and not just sex, vaping, drinking, etc.). The ones with lots of time on their hands but parents who don't try to be their friends are considerably less likely to engage in all fo the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they are in private school, bump it up two years earlier.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Per DD, a few are active by the time they're 12, and more by 14, although the ones that started at 12 seem to have stopped. Most studies show that teens are delaying sex and average age is something like 17 (IIRC).

Also keep in mind that what a teen considers sex generally involves penetration, and they do not consider BJs and oral sex to be sex.

12 and even 14 year olds having sex is so depressing.

Tell me about it!

DD tells me that kids take online purity tests. Apparently a 15 year old friend's purity test score is 49 (the more stuff you do, the lower your score, although it's not all about sex). He was really upset that his 14 year old GF cheated on him because "she was willing to do stuff", and now he had to break up with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

Disagree. The 12-14 yr olds having sex having a lot of free time that is unsupervised and tend to be troubled. If your 13 yr old is not in a relationship and is having sex, you have a big problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Per DD, a few are active by the time they're 12, and more by 14, although the ones that started at 12 seem to have stopped. Most studies show that teens are delaying sex and average age is something like 17 (IIRC).

Also keep in mind that what a teen considers sex generally involves penetration, and they do not consider BJs and oral sex to be sex.

Gross!

[Anonymous]

The real answer is much later than ever. CDC data shows fewer are active and those that are active are waiting longer

[Anonymous]

My 17yo ds is, unfortunately.