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Anonymous
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I read this story in the headlines this morning and it just chilled me to the bone. Click the link, read the story, look at the pictures.
Imagine spending decades with a person, building a family with them, having a life that in every way seems normal - and then one day, this. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13356141/Pennsylvania-Roger-Hanks-shoots-wife-daughter-dead.html I'm happy to be single and childless by choice whenever I see stories like this. I know, I know - 'not all men,' and lots of you are happily married with wonderful families. It just terrifies me to see how all of that can turn on a dime when you are interdependent with someone who can suddenly lose it and end you. |
Anonymous
I think we all know one of those guys, OP. They fancy themselves to be a (insert allegedly "impressive" job title here - lawyer/doctor whatever here) first and foremost, or a "pillar of the community". They think the rules that they try to enforce for others do not apply to them. They have a chip on their shoulder, alienate most normal people, and tend to live in their own head. When someone refuse proper mental health, they only spiral. |
Anonymous
| Ugh what a horrible person! That said, OP, I think most people who get married and have children just accept the (statistically very small) risk that their partner will kill them. We need to better educate women on red flags, bad signs, etc because usually people are not just wonderful the whole life and then one day kill their wife and children. Usually (but not always!) you can spot the men who will kill their wife and child a mile away. |
Anonymous
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Yes, but all those statistics showing that you are more likely to be hurt or killed by your own firearm are just things we can ignore.
This is incredibly sad. |
Anonymous
I don’t think this was a case of a normal person snapping. I think this was an a$$hole guy with a drinking problem and a history of threats, and the reason why the mom and daughter were so close is because they both knew their husband/dad was a terrible guy. It doesn’t change what happened, but this wasn’t an angel that turned bad one day. |
Anonymous
Well I guess it depends on your definition of normal. I agree with you that he was probably a controlling or mean person long before he did this, but there are so many threads on this forum about women living with controlling and/or mean husbands who aren't otherwise 'abusive' in a way that many would justify divorcing. Many women consider that type of male behavior within the range of normal for men and they aren't wrong - it is way more common than the smaller percentage who someday go off the deep end and do something like this. But the thing is, there really isn't any way of knowing in advance - you cannot, in fact, see a man who is going to murder his wife and/or child from a mile away. There are regularly stories in the news of this type of event and everyone is shocked - family, friends, neighbors. Not every woman who gets murdered by her husband has been telling people for years that it would someday happen like Nicole Brown did. |
Anonymous
There is nothing in this article to indicate that this was a “wonderful” guy. You are being swayed by the photos of a mom and daughter at Hamilton, a well dressed husband and wife on a walk, the price of their home. Let’s see what neighbors and family friends have to say about this guy. I bet this is the family in the neighborhood where everyone felt a bad that such a lovely and nice mom and daughter had to put up with their husband and dad. |
Anonymous
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You're grasping at a few tragic stories to justify being single and childfree, when intellectually you know that most families are normal and healthy and enjoy being together.
It's not the first time you post, insisting how happy you are to be by yourself. Sounds like you need a LOT of reassurance about your status, OP. |
Anonymous
| This sounds like a dementia story to me. |
Anonymous
| Someone can easily end your single childless life at any time, any place. You don't need to be in a relationship for that to happen. Are you treating your anxiety, OP? |
Anonymous
That's what I was thinking. |
Anonymous
+2 Extra sad that the daughter died too. Having a gun is stupid. |
Anonymous
| Lots of families are enablers of male violence, |
Anonymous
| What’s up with using a Daily Mail article? Was there no US based non-tabloid coverage? And why do they think this is a mansion? |