Missing practice

[Anonymous]

What reasons justify a kid playing at a high level skipping practice? If you think something does justify missing, how do you ask? How does your kid react?

My kid had a very bad experience with this on a previous team, to the point that we left entirely, and is now worried about asking for the new team.

[Anonymous]

My middle schooler played in a high level travel league, and occasionally missed practice. We always had him do the communicating with the coach. Stuff comes up - illness, soreness and sometimes just a day when a kid needed a day off.
We were more relaxed about it than most families.
Kid knew there was a risk he’d losing playing time to a kid who made all the practices that week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My middle schooler played in a high level travel league, and occasionally missed practice. We always had him do the communicating with the coach. Stuff comes up - illness, soreness and sometimes just a day when a kid needed a day off.
We were more relaxed about it than most families.
Kid knew there was a risk he’d losing playing time to a kid who made all the practices that week.

Those things definitely happen.

I'm asking more about things you know about in advance. Like visiting Grandma for Mother's Day, or attending something like a sibling's performance.

[Anonymous]

Not much so choose carefully. Illness, appointment if you have to, major family event.

[Anonymous]

I’m pp - usually each season we’d have some sort of family event come up - a sibling’s play, a special dinner out with folks from out of town etc
We’d let my son decide what he wanted to do in terms of missing game/practice or family event.
If we decided for him - told him what he would skip/do - it wouldn’t go over well.

[Anonymous]

How old is your kid? I think that’s a factor with these decisions

[Anonymous]

I can’t think of an event that happens during Monday - Friday that would cause us to skip a practice. Hypothetically, I guess if sibling was at the level of state finals or a season final concert, we wouldn’t force one sibling to miss their activity to attend an activity of another.

If our kids have to skip (illness or doctors appointment) they email their coaches.

[Anonymous]

Dd misses for school events, and she had 2 this week. One concert and one school ceremony. Usually she never misses though, but she will definitely not start this weekend's games as a result.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is your kid? I think that’s a factor with these decisions

13

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't plan things midweek on a practice night. So the kid would not go to the dinner with out of town guests, they wouldn't want to do that anyway. Visiting Grandma would happen at a more convenient time. Siblings concert would be up in the air. I have 3 kids and they are all busy with their own things and they don't all go to each others events all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't plan things midweek on a practice night. So the kid would not go to the dinner with out of town guests, they wouldn't want to do that anyway. Visiting Grandma would happen at a more convenient time. Siblings concert would be up in the air. I have 3 kids and they are all busy with their own things and they don't all go to each others events all the time.

OP here,

Between my two kids, someone has a practice or a game or other event 7 days a week. Someone has to miss if they're going to see Grandma, since she's an 8 hour drive away and too elderly and fragile to come to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't plan things midweek on a practice night. So the kid would not go to the dinner with out of town guests, they wouldn't want to do that anyway. Visiting Grandma would happen at a more convenient time. Siblings concert would be up in the air. I have 3 kids and they are all busy with their own things and they don't all go to each others events all the time.

OP here,

Between my two kids, someone has a practice or a game or other event 7 days a week. Someone has to miss if they're going to see Grandma, since she's an 8 hour drive away and too elderly and fragile to come to us.

Are you the same poster on the other thread asking if it’s okay to skip games to have lunch with grandma?

Our grandparents are that far away or farther. No, we don’t have our kids miss sports for visits. We go in the summer or at other times when it doesn’t conflict. And no to your other question, they don’t miss to attend a siblings performance. You carpool on those nights. If my kids join a team, generally they only miss if they are ill or some emergency specialist appointment or a real emergency. This is why my kids never joined a sport that has anything organized June and and July. We need that time for travel flexibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't plan things midweek on a practice night. So the kid would not go to the dinner with out of town guests, they wouldn't want to do that anyway. Visiting Grandma would happen at a more convenient time. Siblings concert would be up in the air. I have 3 kids and they are all busy with their own things and they don't all go to each others events all the time.

OP here,

Between my two kids, someone has a practice or a game or other event 7 days a week. Someone has to miss if they're going to see Grandma, since she's an 8 hour drive away and too elderly and fragile to come to us.

Are you the same poster on the other thread asking if it’s okay to skip games to have lunch with grandma?

Our grandparents are that far away or farther. No, we don’t have our kids miss sports for visits. We go in the summer or at other times when it doesn’t conflict. And no to your other question, they don’t miss to attend a siblings performance. You carpool on those nights. If my kids join a team, generally they only miss if they are ill or some emergency specialist appointment or a real emergency. This is why my kids never joined a sport that has anything organized June and and July. We need that time for travel flexibility.

No that wasn’t me.

Both my kids have commitments all summer. I am guessing that my athlete plays a different sport than yours.

[Anonymous]

In elementary school we made such decisions regarding practices, games and family stuff.
In middle school my kid wants to make these decisions, knowing it could impact playing time. He usually opts not to miss out on family stuff especially when it involves older cousins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't plan things midweek on a practice night. So the kid would not go to the dinner with out of town guests, they wouldn't want to do that anyway. Visiting Grandma would happen at a more convenient time. Siblings concert would be up in the air. I have 3 kids and they are all busy with their own things and they don't all go to each others events all the time.

OP here,

Between my two kids, someone has a practice or a game or other event 7 days a week. Someone has to miss if they're going to see Grandma, since she's an 8 hour drive away and too elderly and fragile to come to us.

So i guess you miss practice. Not sure what kind of permission you’re looking for. I have 3 active kids and they don’t have sports 7 days a week 52 weeks a year. Your schedule may be the issue.