* Not saying my family is perfect, but we at least deal with our shyt. |
DH isn’t interested in anything other than home projects or working on his cars.
He groaned when I asked him to drive me to a surgical procedure. I opted to do it without anesthesia so I could drive myself. Last time I asked because I had no choice but to be completely under, he threw it back at me during an argument about him not being involved with the family. I’m amazed a spouse considers a ride to the hospital a favor!!! He works at home and for himself and has more time than anyone I know. He had no other place to be. Didn’t ask how surgery went. Never asks how I am (doesn’t ask anyone how they are). If I tell him how things went, he says I should have asked about his day before telling him about mine. He clearly isn’t able to really love me or anyone so it’s kind of sad for all of us. |
Good times. Those chronic add/asd loony bin days. |
Money - We make a lot (both of us) but I want him to make more (we make about the same amount). |
He’s cold. Yikes. |
Unfair division of labor and mental load. We both work full time and I'm doing 80% of household chores and tasks. Talking about it and agreeing to a better set up never last more than a few months. Then I take over, get burned out and fall apart and he gets defensive that he "helps" Resentment builds and honestly I don't want to do this the rest of my life |
Same. Don’t know why DH can’t just let us each have our own views and move on with life. Why argue about it? I can tell when he’s ramping up a “discussion” and become preemptively fatigued. I don’t think he realizes that these episodes are a significant withdrawal from our relationship goodwill. I try to tell him but he accused me of being sensitive. I literally dread them. |
I understand your concern but it is unfounded, at least in our family. |