Anyone tried Dr. Becky?

[Anonymous]

I feel like she's always in my FB feed and I just searched for how to deal with something my DS is doing right now, and she popped up. If you signed up for her site, did it help? What ages? My DS is 8 and I'm not sure if that's too old for what she's focused on.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she’s great. I did it for a few months. She has good workshops. After I got what I needed, I cancelled. You can also listen to her Good Inside podcast for free or read her book. My son is 8.

[Anonymous]

I agree more with Bad Therapy and think Dr. Becky's style is too permissive. But to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree more with Bad Therapy and think Dr. Becky's style is too permissive. But to each their own.

Ewww. You actually read that crap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree more with Bad Therapy and think Dr. Becky's style is too permissive. But to each their own.

Ewww. You actually read that crap?

^ one is an actual certified practitioner and the other is a political hack.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know what you mean by “do Dr Becky“ but I read her book and loved it and can even apply things with my teenagers.

[Anonymous]

I listened to a couple of her podcast episodes and it sounded llke nonsense.

[Anonymous]

I think the amount of times I've seen her mentioned on DCUM in the past couple months is suspect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree more with Bad Therapy and think Dr. Becky's style is too permissive. But to each their own.

Ewww. You actually read that crap?

NP. You sound super tolerant. No need to call ideas you don't agree with "crap," it makes you sound rather fragile.

OP, if Dr. Becky's advice doesn't work for you, keep looking. Gentle parenting is the current fad parenting style, but it doesn't work great for all families.

[Anonymous]

OP here and I caved and spent the $ yesterday to upgrade.

So far I find her personally a bit annoying, but I have to say that even watching 20 minutes of her stuff on sibling issues did help me reframe a few things on my end.

[Anonymous]

I love her book and her methods but I do think it is a little permissive for certain kids. As with all parenting methods, it's a matter of knowing your kids and trying things and seeing what resonates.

It actually works best for my DS with ADHD who has a really hard time with emotional regulation and also has some communication issues. The "you're a good kid who is having a hard time" line is very helpful to him, I think likely because kids like him get a lot of negative feedback at school and internalize it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her book and her methods but I do think it is a little permissive for certain kids. As with all parenting methods, it's a matter of knowing your kids and trying things and seeing what resonates.

It actually works best for my DS with ADHD who has a really hard time with emotional regulation and also has some communication issues. The "you're a good kid who is having a hard time" line is very helpful to him, I think likely because kids like him get a lot of negative feedback at school and internalize it.

Thanks for this feedback. So much of what I'm dealing with right now with him is regulation, and this idea that if he gets in trouble, he's a bad kid etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I caved and spent the $ yesterday to upgrade.

So far I find her personally a bit annoying, but I have to say that even watching 20 minutes of her stuff on sibling issues did help me reframe a few things on my end.

This is exactly how I feel about her! I find her to be kind of like corny? And sometimes a little extreme in a few of her takes on things. But she definitely helps me get perspective on a lot of kid things. Her logic seems really sound even if I don't agree entirely on outcomes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree more with Bad Therapy and think Dr. Becky's style is too permissive. But to each their own.

Ewww. You actually read that crap?

NP. You sound super tolerant. No need to call ideas you don't agree with "crap," it makes you sound rather fragile.

OP, if Dr. Becky's advice doesn't work for you, keep looking. Gentle parenting is the current fad parenting style, but it doesn't work great for all families.

It’s crap because it’s political propaganda being pushed as parenting advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I caved and spent the $ yesterday to upgrade.

So far I find her personally a bit annoying, but I have to say that even watching 20 minutes of her stuff on sibling issues did help me reframe a few things on my end.

This is exactly how I feel about her! I find her to be kind of like corny? And sometimes a little extreme in a few of her takes on things. But she definitely helps me get perspective on a lot of kid things. Her logic seems really sound even if I don't agree entirely on outcomes

Me too. She is always in my Instagram feed, but I only watch it with sound off and captions on. Her messages make a ton of sense for one of my kids, and have helped me reshape how I deal with him (extra helpful because he's my third, and first to behave in this way.)