How would you handle this? We all know what happens in Ibiza (major party scene). 19 yo son wants to go this summer and has the $$ to do so. I am really against this for many reasons (he can be impulsive and isn’t the strongest when it comes to peer pressure). What leeway do I have as the mom? He of course is using the “I’m an adult” line |
Umm, he is an adult. You have no say. My son went packing in Europe before he went away to college. He was with a friend and they were fine. Drop the rope. |
You can book your own trip there yourself and promise to follow him around? What else can you do? |
You have no leeway. Chill out, he'll be fine. |
It's not as crazy as you think. I've been and didn't do drugs. |
Whatever he can do there, he can do here. Only thing you can do is bribe him with something better or threaten to take something away.
I advise instead to treat him like an adult and talk about how to stay out of trouble and how to handle various scenarios. |
Quoting myself to say second paragraph applies no matter where he is, also. |
You could do the following around thing! Idk at what point that would run afoul of harassment laws or something. Stalking? |
You can decline to pay for a luxury expense you don't approve of. |
Tell him he should wait to be at least be 21 to go there... and stick to it.
That would, at least, give you a few more years. |
It’s really not that crazy! He’ll go to clubs, he’ll drink a lot, he may sleep with a few people. The end. |
Wow, are you his mom or his parole officer?
He's an adult, has the money, and wants to go. Ask him to check in with you, send pics, and enjoy himself. |
Everyone knows only the US has this backwards 21 rule. He 100% knows the legal age is 18 there. |
Really? You are really comparing mom's concerns to a parole officer duties. Geez! |
Yes. Parents should not be trying to exert this kind of control over their adult children. Maybe she can suggest an ankle bracelet for him? |