How can I exhibit high value traits while not being attractive?
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Anonymous
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All the dating advice says to not be desperate and filter and only wait until a guy pursues you.
But what do you do if you’re not attractive enough to be noticed by the good guys just by doing your own thing? I find I have to make the first move to show I’m interested and then work hard to keep their interest and show my value. Just sitting around waiting to be picked doesn’t work if you aren’t attractive and chased by lots of eligible men! |
Anonymous
| Stop using the phrase 'high value' for starters. |
Anonymous
| Have you considered using a matchmaker? They might be able to help you with this issue, both by helping you "advertise" (sorry - can't think of a better word) yourself better and matching you with men who value your attributes. |
Anonymous
| Become attractive. Lose the weight. Dress fashionably. Perfect hair and skin. These things take effort. Everyone on this forum thinks you’re either born perfect or you’re Just ugly. Not true. Stop pitying yourself and put in the work like the 99.99 percent of us who weren’t born perfect. |
Anonymous
| You are totally wrong about the ‘good Guys’. Your picker is broken. Find a professional (expensive) matchmaker. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Hate to say it but in reality JDBF. |
Anonymous
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I attended an expensive overnight camp for girls. That experience taught me that being attractive can definitely be purchased.
There used to be a nurse practitioner in Bethesda with a practice called “fresh face”. Go see someone like that. There are fillers, Botox, PRP facials, lasers. Sometimes people need something more extensive, like a nose job. Well, if you need it, get it. Straighten and whiten teeth. Go to a high-end hairdresser. Get highlights, lowlights, keratin treatment, products, and probably a Revlon blow dry brush or the Dyson airwrap. Do personal shopper at Nordstrom for a few outfits or read blogs then buy some things. Join a gym, workout, and clean-up your diet. Looking good is possible for any woman. It’s just a lot of work. |
Anonymous
Man here to say that ^this is great advice. Every woman can be attractive. Hit the gym hard--it shows on any figure and will transform you within two years if you eat well, too. |
Anonymous
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…and a lot of money.
But there is little that can’t be accomplished with money and effort. |
Anonymous
OK, my Google skills are failing me. What the heck is JDBF? |
Anonymous
Sadly, it means just don't be fat. |
Anonymous
| Plenty of men find a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, self-assured, warm, and accepting to be devastatingly attractive. Not all men, but many good men do - especially if they have worked on their own self acceptance (and we are all works in progress). |
Anonymous
| This area is full of ugly women with partners. |
Anonymous
| Oh yeah stop drinking if you do. This area is full of striver women who look like meth heads once the makeup comes off because they can't stop hitting the boxed wine while passing out to greys anatomy while preparing for the next days pile of PowerPoint decks |