it is not how much you know but it is who you know

[Anonymous]

I regret not acquiring this knowledge during my twenties that in life, success does not solely depend on one's knowledge. It is about who you know. Additionally, emotional intelligence (EQ) holds greater significance than intellectual intelligence (IQ). No matter how intelligent one may be, lacking the right connections renders them merely another diligent worker. Lastly, it is advisable to master the art of playing golf proficiently as it opens doors to opportunities within the senior leadership of a company.

[Anonymous]

This was definitely the case for me. When I was getting my MBA one of my professors made a throwaway comment having nothing to do with the course. Two weeks later I saw an article about it and stopped by his office hours to talk with him about it. We developed a friendship and he ultimately introduced me to a friend of his who worked at a tech firm I wanted to get into. I got a job there, and happily worked there over a decade.

[Anonymous]

Hasn’t been true for me. I have gotten all my jobs through applying cold then doing a good job with the interviews, both skill wise and connecting with interviewer. So maybe a combination of eq and iq. But having the knowledge and skills to do a good job is very important. Perhaps it’s different in other fields but I’m in software development and it’s been true for me and for my friends.

[Anonymous]

I was a diligent worker and made several business owners very rich. Then I decided to make me rich.
Never crossed my mind to keep looking for another rich person who could hire me so I could keep making money for them.
I don't wonder how well others are doing because they know someone. I wonder why they don't work for themselves as hard as they are willing to work for someone else.

[Anonymous]

LOL I just told my HS sophomore getting into a good college is exactly about that!!!

[Anonymous]

I have gotten all the social skills (developed later in life) and networked but still no door open.
It’s just one of those chicken soup hashtag to re-center a non-inclusive, tribalism based work culture to blaming the individual for not checking another arbitrary box.

[Anonymous]

I think my career success has been mostly luck and being at the right place at the right time. No one pulled me up through the ranks but I took advantage of random opportunities and moved around a bit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hasn’t been true for me. I have gotten all my jobs through applying cold then doing a good job with the interviews, both skill wise and connecting with interviewer. So maybe a combination of eq and iq. But having the knowledge and skills to do a good job is very important. Perhaps it’s different in other fields but I’m in software development and it’s been true for me and for my friends.

+1 but I’m in health policy. Not sure about my peers. I feel very lucky it’s worked out this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have gotten all the social skills (developed later in life) and networked but still no door open.
It’s just one of those chicken soup hashtag to re-center a non-inclusive, tribalism based work culture to blaming the individual for not checking another arbitrary box.

Lol, this is funny and I agree with it to a degree.

However, cultural fit and networking are indeed very important within an organization, and this hated quote does reflect my reality. I've let my career be flatlined because I don't fit well in the company I work for. It pays well and has excellent work life balance, but I just never end up making real, valuable connections with people who have power to shape my career. I also got "voted off the island" once during a recession. It would definitely help if I were a guy, even though there's no obvious ill intent towards women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret not acquiring this knowledge during my twenties that in life, success does not solely depend on one's knowledge. It is about who you know. Additionally, emotional intelligence (EQ) holds greater significance than intellectual intelligence (IQ). No matter how intelligent one may be, lacking the right connections renders them merely another diligent worker. Lastly, it is advisable to master the art of playing golf proficiently as it opens doors to opportunities within the senior leadership of a company.

Success depends on luck, likeability and comfort and skillfulness with being dishonest. Those in power call the latter salesmanship of persuasion to make themselves feel better.

[Anonymous]

I saw an Onion type headline on Twitter that my vv smart sister sent me that said “Former smart sibling now the poor one”

We loled bc damn isn’t that the dynamic w us. One of us was the “dumb” one w lots of friends and one was the brilliant one who went off to top ten university.

Now on top of that being such a typical way to give false labels to you’re two perfectly lovely daughters, I have to say that my ability to get along and lead teams has me deep in the tech industry pulling in close to a mil a year in stock options. My sister is doing well too! But she’s a grumpy at work academia drop out (her words not mine).

[Anonymous]

House of Pain said it best. Jump Around.

Jumping job to job is how you move up.

[Anonymous]

I was out of the workforce for six years taking care of my family and only by reaching out to a former colleague as a reference was I able to secure my current position. So yeah, it's definitely conctacts that can help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw an Onion type headline on Twitter that my vv smart sister sent me that said “Former smart sibling now the poor one”

We loled bc damn isn’t that the dynamic w us. One of us was the “dumb” one w lots of friends and one was the brilliant one who went off to top ten university.

Now on top of that being such a typical way to give false labels to you’re two perfectly lovely daughters, I have to say that my ability to get along and lead teams has me deep in the tech industry pulling in close to a mil a year in stock options. My sister is doing well too! But she’s a grumpy at work academia drop out (her words not mine).

I’m guessing you are prettier, so you both worked with what you got.

[Anonymous]

I agree with this. I’d also say that executive function skills are more important than IQ.