Therapist filed report with CPS, should I inform husband?

[Anonymous]

My therapist informed me that she filed a report to CPS after I told her some details about my husband's parenting methods. While I know she is a mandated reporter, it was not my intention for things to come to this. My questions is should I tell my husband that they are going to come calling or act as though I had no idea. CPS will not disclose who filed the report but I feel my husband would suspect I had something to do with it. I feel nervous about what will happen if I tell him but also if I don't, things could be worse. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Could you be more specific about his "parenting methods" and in what way things could be worse?

[Anonymous]

While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

I would fire the husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Sounds like ditching the husband would be more appropriate if he’s committing reportable acts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Sounds like ditching the husband would be more appropriate if he’s committing reportable acts.

Therapist has a right and duty to report, but she broke patient confidence. I would never again trust him/her.

[Anonymous]

here - I won't give specific details but I will say that he does have a temper and gets angry and yells. I've been speaking to a therapist about marital and parenting problems hoping to get advice on how to improve things. What's frustrating is I'm not sure its helping and now I'm in a tough spot. My husband and I do not agree on how to discipline our child. He feels his way works but I feel like it's a bit severe. Now CPS is getting involved and I'm terrified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Sounds like ditching the husband would be more appropriate if he’s committing reportable acts.

Therapist has a right and duty to report, but she broke patient confidence. I would never again trust him/her.

Wrong they are mandatory reporters whatever OP told them is fair game in that instance

Team kids over these two dumbass crappy parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: here - I won't give specific details but I will say that he does have a temper and gets angry and yells. I've been speaking to a therapist about marital and parenting problems hoping to get advice on how to improve things. What's frustrating is I'm not sure its helping and now I'm in a tough spot. My husband and I do not agree on how to discipline our child. He feels his way works but I feel like it's a bit severe. Now CPS is getting involved and I'm terrified.

OP if you are "terrified" how do you think your kid feels when your DH raises his hand or belt or whatever?

Shame on you for staying with that piece of crap.

And stop worrying CPS is no going to say you or your therapist reported. Unless you tell him this part is a non issue.

Your therapist did not report this lightly you idiot.

[Anonymous]

Aren't you afraid of what your husband would do to you if you told him that you're basically the reason he's getting investigated? I'd 100% play dumb.

I hope you can find a way to protect your kids.

[Anonymous]

Informing your husband will help him get his story down and time to coach his kids on what to tell (lie) the investigator. I’d keep my mouth shut and prepare yourself and your kids for your own safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Sounds like ditching the husband would be more appropriate if he’s committing reportable acts.

Therapist has a right and duty to report, but she broke patient confidence. I would never again trust him/her.

Any therapist will tell you that they are mandated reporters and that ethical and legal guidelines about confidentiality don’t apply to information about threats to children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Sounds like ditching the husband would be more appropriate if he’s committing reportable acts.

Therapist has a right and duty to report, but she broke patient confidence. I would never again trust him/her.

Wrong they are mandatory reporters whatever OP told them is fair game in that instance

Team kids over these two dumbass crappy parents.

Of course they are mandatory reporters, but OP needs a new therapist, end of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While details would be helpful, I'd fire your therapist

Therapists are legally mandated reporters if they have any suspicion of child abuse. Fire all you want, but they are legally required to report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Informing your husband will help him get his story down and time to coach his kids on what to tell (lie) the investigator. I’d keep my mouth shut and prepare yourself and your kids for your own safety.

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