Weed

[Anonymous]

Dd is 21 and still lives with us. We told her many times to leave, but she is not. She takes weed in the house against our wishes. She steels money and many other things from the house. Waht are my options?

[Anonymous]

Change the locks.

[Anonymous]

Addicts steal. She's using more than just weed.

[Anonymous]

Does she have a job? She needs to move out i if she cannot abide by your rules. Agree with pp that she is likely doing more than weed if she is stealing money. You have to do the tough love thing OP.

[Anonymous]

You might need to get some NARCAN, It seems like she doing a lot more than just weed. Even Tho weed is legal in the DMV, it seems like she doing a lot of hard core drugs. Does she work? Does she attend school? Why is she selling things from the house and stealing money?

[Anonymous]

Her behavior is unaceptable.
I would start by clearing out her room, including the bed.
Take the home keys or change the locks.

Give her an ultimatum. Clean up herself or leave.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

[Anonymous]

Kill her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

Call police and report theft, squatting and threats. She needs tough love. Don't get intimidated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

You didn’t raise her right.

[Anonymous]

Get a restraining order and change locks. Write a letter that you love her but it's past time for her to be responsible for her self as an adult. Pack and leave her bags outside front door, get her an extended motel room in her name and pay cash advance for a month. Put a $100 in letter for taxi and lunch.

[Anonymous]

Advising them to change the locks is not good advice. Adult children have tenant rights if they’ve been allowed to live in the family home beyond the age of majority. OP would need to follow the relevant eviction process in their jurisdiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

You didn’t raise her right.

Obviously, Captain Obvious but what's the point? She is facing the consequences and likely already regretting her life choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Advising them to change the locks is not good advice. Adult children have tenant rights if they’ve been allowed to live in the family home beyond the age of majority. OP would need to follow the relevant eviction process in their jurisdiction.

If tenant is stealing and threatening then getting a restraining order and evicting them should be quicker, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Advising them to change the locks is not good advice. Adult children have tenant rights if they’ve been allowed to live in the family home beyond the age of majority. OP would need to follow the relevant eviction process in their jurisdiction.

If tenant is stealing and threatening then getting a restraining order and evicting them should be quicker, no?

No. Tenet rights are out of control. Start the formal eviction process. Report theft and illegal drug use to police.