Weed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

You didn’t raise her right.

That’s not fair. Sometimes really good parents have kids that don’t turn out so good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

21 year olds think they have more power than they actually do. It’s highly unlikely that she has people.

I am the parent of a mentally ill child who has abused drugs and probably still does weed. Here is one of the most important things I’ve learned.

Figure out what your line in the sand is. In other words don’t ever make an empty threat. If you’re not going to make your kid leave for using weed in your house then ignore weed use in your house. You cannot be wishy washy at all.

You also need to know that you may have to evict your own child even though you own the house and they don’t pay you rent. But if you have grounds for a restraining order and you have the stomach and chops to do it, by the time it expires, the eviction will have occurred if you time things right.

If you put your child out, make sure you know your conditions for them returning and then have a zero tolerance policy.

I turned around my very violent and troubled child. It wasn’t easy but I never wavered. I drew my line in the sand. I put my child out. I involved the court system. I cried a lot but I never moved my line. When my child was ready to come home, I made them set conditions and did not allow their return until the conditions were acceptable to me. I did not pay for a single thing while they were gone even knowing that a homeless shelter might be the result. And I have not wavered for a second on my zero tolerance policy now that they are home.

And before we got here, I paid for all sorts of therapy and treatment. But still we ended up here.

Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Geez op how icy of a pushover are you tell her to gtfo by x date if she can’t abide by your rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

You didn’t raise her right.

Clearly. The next time she threatens violence or steals, call the police. Do not fall for her crap.
If you want to be nice, do an intervention and out her in rehab. When she’s done, she lives elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.

LOL no you are not.

She is not the boss of you.

1. Put her stuff on the lawn when she is at work.
2. Change the locks.
3. Call the police if she tries to enter the premises
4. Tell her to f off and grow up.
5. Get a restraining order if needed.
6. Do not give her any money.

If you want to give her a weeks notice to move out sure. I personally would not. Shit on the lawn locks changed she's out.

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll post?!
If it’s real, do what the pp above advises!

[Anonymous]

This whole thread should be locked just for spelling and grammar violations.