The PARENTS are caught in a time warp and have no idea what GMU and it’s four campuses have become. The students know better |
That was me. Happy to answer any questions but my experience is now somewhat dayed |
^^ dated! |
Op, you have the smartest kid! My student has ADD and even though he could have applied to more of the glam places (act 35/GPA 4) chose a school locally. The condescending looks from peers and other parents were a bit hard to handle. But once graduation was done, it stops. And he is so happy with his choice. and we have some mental peace. |
People always tend to disparage schools that are in their own backyard despite their quality. It’s the whole Town vs Gown phenomenon. Take any school in VA and the locals will look down on the students, even in Charlottesville and Blacksburg.
George Mason is a young university by most standards but has dramatically improved over the years to have nationally recognized programs. Unfortunately, some locals don’t understand that. |
Were these rude comments in person or posed as "jokes" on social media? |
Why? They are legit questions. Those are weak/nonexistent factors for choosing between these schools. They seem fabricated. Moms who would go to the trouble to write a thread like this likely had a heavy hand in driving their kid’s decisions. If she thinks he needs to help with this then there is no way she sat back during the application/decision process. |
Honestly, the best thing it could have done was keep the UVA branding. That university would have basically been akin to UCLA. But there is no time machine to explain how college branding would have worked in 1972x |
Have you had an ADHD kid, one who lacks exec functioning? They are not like a typical 18 yo. Anxiety often goes along with it (OP didn't state that, but it's often a part of the package), and when things dont go well it can spiral out of control rather quickly. Especially for a boy, they are likely more like a 14-15yo than an 18yo in terms of overall maturity/decision making ability/brain development, despite how they may appear to others (as the OP stated as well). The transition to college, even if well managed in HS is a HUGE step. If the kid feels more comfortable being closer to home and in person therapy, the kid is smart and knows what he wants/needs. Being 2 hours away could be enough to undo his successes, so why not attend the nearby excellent school. |
Seriously, you obviously have never had anything but a neurotypical kid. Consider yourself lucky, and I for one am thankful you don't have a non-neurotypical kid because you would not be a very supportive parent to get them help for what they need. Until you have a kid with ADHD/EF issues (and possibly Anxiety/depressions/etc and all the co-factors that often go along with them), you truly do NOT understand what it is like. They are smart kids who have to work 3x as hard as a typical kid to get to where they are in today's school systems. When things work well, all is good. Disrupt it a bit and they can spiral downward quickly. |
just ignore the idiots.
every person has his or her own reason for choosing a school. it is a personal decision. no need to take into account everyone else's opinion. |
Huh? I actually have two kids with ADHD, one inattentive and one severe combined with IEP, meds, therapy, etc. That is how I know about access to meds and therapy. Being a little farther away in VA is no big deal for those things. That’s why they sound like bogus reasons. If that is the kid’s true preference, great. But it sounds like OP was driving the decision based on how she worded her post. And frankly posting about it at all. |
UVAF? |
Maybe not for your kid(s) but for many having the safety of being near home and the comforts of things not being too different can make ALL the difference for success in a non-neurotypical kid. Too many changes and some kids cannot handle it. As you should know, not all ADHD, EF lacking kids are the same....they all react to life in different ways. Some kids prefer therapy to be in-person others work just fine with online. There is not one catch all answer is all I'm stating. |
It's the Koch Brothers. If you don't know, you don't know enough about the history of the school. A strong negative. |