Exactly. If it did that, I would move somewhere else. I wouldn’t say “nevermind I just won’t have any kids!” |
It is important to discuss this issue with your partner and decide together what is best for your family. Consider financial, emotional and personal aspects to make an informed decision. Don't rush, give yourself time to think and discuss all possible consequences and wishes. |
Most boring non-post I've ever seen on DCUM. |
I dont think that's the point. 1 to 2 is easy, same house, same car - everyone in same hotel room, etc. All this impacts finances. Three is bigger jump in life style, $$$ - why we stooped at 2. |
My first two kids both need tons of parental attention! We couldn't have our current careers and any additional children. |
No |
I don’t know any well adjusted families with 3 or more. It’s always the case the older kids become nannies for the youngest. The fathers withdraw into work to avoid the chaos and work 24/7. The money is always very tight. The moms are always exhausted and are always ready to dump the kids anywhere they can. The quality of life is not great. |
I mean there are a lot of valid reasons to stop at 2, but these seem like silly ones. We have 3 and you can book 1 room while the youngest is small enough for a pack n play. By the time kids are older, many families (even of 4) end up getting a second room for kids vs adults, or a suite. For a flight, 1 parent sits with 1 kid and the other sits with 2 kids. We swap that around on the way back. Amusement park rides aren’t always built for even numbers. For instance, space mountain is a row of 3. You can do different variations of splitting up or have 1 parent ride alone if needed. Car space isn’t tight if you get a minivan. Even when we only had 2 we had a minivan. It’s great for carpooling, lugging around sports gear, road trips, etc. These are all very minor logistical things. I can’t imagine deciding how many children to have based on the occasional trip to an amusement park. |
Our family didn’t feel entirely complete until we had our 3rd. I just knew, after my first and second that I wasn’t done.
DH sometimes brings up having a 4th but I don’t have that strong desire to have another child anymore. Our family size feels right for us. |
You sound jealous. |
You must not live in a wealthy area. |
Why are you here, rubbing elbows with the little people? Isn't there a rich NYer board you can post your rich people problems on? |