Sometimes I have to pick up my kid and I don’t have time to run home and crate my dog first. Be empathetic. Did this actually harm you in any material way? |
My daughter getting over her fear and people violating these rules to bring their dogs wherever are actually separate issues. Of course my daughter needs to get over her fear, it's something we work on all the time like we would any phobia. We want to adopt a dog so it's important to us that we deal with this. But that's a private family matter. That's totally independent of whether these people should be bringing dogs to a place filled with kids where dogs are explicitly not allowed. Everyone thinks THEIR dog is the exception but dogs are animals and even a very well behaved dog might be startled or triggered by something random in an environment like that and good bite a kid or knock one over. That's why you aren't supposed to bring dogs. And even the people who DO bring dogs would be upset if people who had ill-behaved dogs brought them, right. So they just shouldn't bring dogs. I've complained about this at PTA meetings and to the administration. They'll reiterate the dog rule via email and then people will continue to bring their dogs, plus now some people think I hate dogs (I don't). Some dog people are just entitle a$$holes. |
Kind of. My colleague recently brought her dog to work for the first time because her husband was out of town, and she didn't want to leave the dog alone. The dog was noisy, distracting, and shed in our office. I can't even believe it happened. I don't want to be the whistle-blower, but I am really annoyed. |
We went to a hotel that allowed dogs, and everyone had their dogs out in the hotel breakfast room. It was nuts. |
Oh, and I was woken up by a dog barking in the next room at 7am. Never going to one of those places again. |
They treat these dogs like toys or accessories. Your dog doesn't want to be in Giant with shiny floors where it can't run. It wants to be outside running in grass where it can smell things and not have to pee on the floor. |
Work on your time management skills. |
As someone who regularly brings my dogs to hotels (where they are allowed), this is infuriating! Of course your dog isn't welcome at breakfast. I am always grateful when we travel with our dogs that certain hotels allow them. In exchange, I try to be as considerate and unobtrusive as possible to avoid making anyone uncomfortable. Entitled dog owners who don't follow the rules ruin things for the rest of us. |
My pet peeve is dogs at the supermarket. It seems like people in my neighborhood have just decided to incorporate stopping at the store for eggs or milk as part of their morning dog walk and it BLOWS MY MIND. |
I was at Harris Teeter last week and a woman had a dog with her. We were next to the salad buffet. So gross. |
I am plenty empathetic. It didn't harm me but there were a couple of kids at the meeting who are scared of dogs and one who is allergic. The janitors at the school saw it and were annoyed and said something to me after. It doesn't reflect great on the group, which relies on the goodwill of the school to continue to meet there. |
I think this is happening because somewhere along th way people stopped enforcing the rules. Dont even get me started on the off leash dogs. I can't use an ideal running trail because of these rule breakers. And no one will do anything about it even though it would be lucrative to hire someone to ticket them. Just because you don't see that you're harming anyone doesn't mean you're not. I shouldn't have to avoid running or taking my kids to certain trails so I don't get jumped on by your dog...and if you are thinking oh my dog never jumps on people while off leash, this is still an issue because seeing them off leash will trigger a stress response regardless. I think people became especially inconsiderate about their dogs during the pandemic. |
Op here. This doesn't bother me - it's when it's specifically not allowed that is an issue. |
yes!! This weekend we were at a trail at our elementary school teaching my kids to ride their bikes and an off leash dog came running and barking and nipped at my son on his scooter. He missed, thankfully, but this lady was all flustered because "he doesn't like wheeled vehicles" and said he always flips out when he sees kids on bikes. Then leash him!!!! |
I hope your daughter is able to work through this - it seems like the entitled/inconsiderate dog owners are a growing lobby. I have some trauma regarding dogs (bite requiring stitiches as a child + another bite later on requiring rabies shots, both from other's pets) and I also have a child with severe allergies. I realize I'm more and more in the minority of someone who wants the rules to be respected on these things. I don't hate dogs and don't mind them on a patio if they are leashed or whatever. I'm uncomfortable with strange large off leash dogs, no matter how friendly they appear. But your dog's anxiety is more important than mine I guess. |