OP, I am very proud of you, too - you did the right thing. DCUM is never in agreement on anything - even the one nanny-troll had nothing to say in defense of your employer!

First, let me say that the things your MB did and said were meant to hurt you - of course she still trusts you with her children. She was just getting in her immature and irrational digs when she had the chance. By Tuesday, she will know what a horse's ass she was.

Second, this is the woman you have worked for for two years - she did not change in this last week. You just never saw her in this position before. I think she knows she was wrong but just could not dare to face it or admit it. But this is the same woman you have been working for for two years and this bad/dangerous situation happened once - it would happen again. She will get around to reading your letter. I am very glad you wrote it. Your MB's pride got the better of her. She will be sorry.

Third, every nanny on this forum knows the intense pain of leaving a charge. I have rarely felt pain quite like it. And I am so very sorry, OP. There is no getting around the pain and tears - you just have to go thru it. I know. I know. Every nanny knows. It is hard to believe that you will ever love a new charge as much - but you will.

Fourth, make sure your agency gets every penny due you or take the bitch to court. I am serious.

Fifth, be proud of yourself - you took care of yourself and handled everything in a professional and calm manner. You knew what you had to do and you did it - that is no easy task when the love of children is involved.

I wish you the very, very best. Please stay in touch with us - we are pulling for you. It will be a crappy, tear-filled weekend for you but Monday will feel better. I promise.

Did she pay you for unused PTO/vacation? If not, waste no time in requesting this. If she refuses, file a complaint with local/wage labor board


You are, obviously, a wonderful nsnny and your new charges will be very lucky
Good luck

OP, I'm proud of you.
Trust a believe what you are seeing now is MBs true colors, and some hints of it have probably always been there but you either didn't see it or overlooked it because it wasn't directed at you.

You did everything right in this situation. I hope you have a copy of the letter you gave her.

I hope you find an excellent position where you are appreciated.

I'm so sorry, OP. I hope you find a wonderful family to work for after this!

*their nanny

As expected, giving in my notice ended with my immediately termination.

I feel an intense mixture of relief and sadness. Much of today I spent crying while looking at my charges faces knowing this was probably the last day I’d be there nanny and maybe the last time I’d ever see them. I’m pretty heartbroken right now and just didn’t anticipate any of this...

MBs behavior these last two weeks is so uncharacteristic and there is a part of me that feels very guilty that maybe she’s going through something.

Regardless, it is what it is.

I think I was pretty prodessional giving my notice. I wrote out a letter, handed it to her and verbalized a summary of why I was quitting. I was super anxious. I mentioned I’m not very good at defending or advocating for myself in person. I think I did well. MB responded by telling me no need to fill out my two weeks because I was being let go today. She watched as I took the boys car seats out of my car and told me I put her in a terrible position and she was going to have to take off and find a temporary nanny. I again mentioned I would finish my two weeks and she said no, that she no longer trusted me with her children.

That really hurt.

This has been a pretty terrible and bizarre experience and I really hope things look up. I want to reiterate how I never expected MB to ever react in this way. She has never been overly emotional or spoken poorly to me. She’s usually a rational, reasonable and pleasant employer. I truly can’t believe this is it, it’s the end of a 2 year position.

For the boys sake, I hope they find a wonderful nanny who is better than I am. They’re wonderful children and deserve the best.

Thank you for all the support and kind words. Honestly did NOT expect that from DCUM.

Please update us on how the MB responds!

Sounds like a win, OP! Enjoy the holidays, and who knows, maybe one of the ad hoc gigs will turn into something permanent.

OP, this is a valid reason for quitting so you should be eligible for one unemployment.

Anonymous wrote:I am putting my notice in today.

I’m giving two weeks, but I doubt she’ll keep me.

I contacted my agency and they have a lot of temporary work for me that pays well and will get my through the month. They said they’re confident they can find me a position in the new year, so hope that works out.

Positive side is now I can spend the entire week of Christmas with my family!

You are doing the right thing! Proud of you, OP. Your next position will be wonderful!

Anonymous wrote:I am putting my notice in today.

I’m giving two weeks, but I doubt she’ll keep me.

I contacted my agency and they have a lot of temporary work for me that pays well and will get my through the month. They said they’re confident they can find me a position in the new year, so hope that works out.

Positive side is now I can spend the entire week of Christmas with my family!

Great to hear; let us know how MB reacted.

Anonymous wrote:I am putting my notice in today.

I’m giving two weeks, but I doubt she’ll keep me.

I contacted my agency and they have a lot of temporary work for me that pays well and will get my through the month. They said they’re confident they can find me a position in the new year, so hope that works out.

Positive side is now I can spend the entire week of Christmas with my family!

I wish you a Merry Christmas and the happiest of New Year's. You deserve it!

I am putting my notice in today.

I’m giving two weeks, but I doubt she’ll keep me.

I contacted my agency and they have a lot of temporary work for me that pays well and will get my through the month. They said they’re confident they can find me a position in the new year, so hope that works out.

Positive side is now I can spend the entire week of Christmas with my family!

SO sorry, OP. Livid on your behalf. I feel sorry for the boys losing such a great nanny; MB is going to have a hard time finding anyone as good as you from what you describe.

Anonymous wrote:OP- I'm sorry, your MB stinks.
It's easier to look for a new job when you have one, so:
Start looking for a job today. Take days off to interview if you need. And then quit. Not necessary to give 2 weeks.
Her family can come in to help out
-MB who thinks your MB is a jerk.

and when you quit, tell her again that her family specifically told you that they did not want help, and that you should focus on your chores. and her blaming you is the exact reason why you are quitting.