Anonymous wrote:I agree...No one has the right to even ASK you how to raise your child on your own time. She is definitely crossing the line.

I would never even offer my nanny family unsolicited parenting advice, much less ask them to do something to make my job easier.

If she were my nanny, she would be gone. She either accepts the job status quo, or find another one that better suits her.

Hopefully OP does just that. If the OP consents to this controlling nanny, she is opening up Pandora's Box for more things later on I guarantee.

Anonymous wrote:I agree...No one has the right to even ASK you how to raise your child on your own time. She is definitely crossing the line.

I would never even offer my nanny family unsolicited parenting advice, much less ask them to do something to make my job easier.

If she were my nanny, she would be gone. She either accepts the job status quo, or find another one that better suits her.

Hopefully OP does just that. If the OP consents to this controlling nanny, she is opening up Pandora's Box for more things later on I guarantee.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you lucked out with the nanny!

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB and have no clue why everyone is getting so worked up over this post. I think the nanny has an idea worth exploring - if OP doesn't want to try it - that's fine. If she does - that is fine. Why everyone's hair is on fire here is what I find baffling.

Breathe, Ladies.

Anonymous wrote:OP can get a cheaper babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny is overstepping her boundaries her BIG time OP.

She has absolutely no right to tell you what you can or cannot do with your own child when she is not there.

She's an idiot.

If she cannot handle re-direction with your child regarding the T.V., then I hate to tell you this, but she is not as great and experienced as you think she is.

OP here and I couldn't disagree with you more. We hired an educated and experienced nanny for these types of decisions. I most certainly respect a nanny who does NOT want to take the easy way out and plunk my child in front of the TV!!!

This was her request - so calm down, PP. She is not telling us anything. Neither she nor I want our child to have any more tantrums then necessary. We are all of the school that we avoid tantrum-triggers.

You are missing the point here OP....PP Here.

I was not saying that your nanny wants to sit your child in front of the T.V. all day, I never even insinuated that she did. You are just assuming something from nothing.

I am going by the context of your question here. And that is focused purely on principle. Nothing else. I was just telling you that I believe a nanny has no right to tell you what you can or cannot do while she is not there. You stated she doesn't TELL you, she instead ASKS you. Sounds more like a statement vs. a question, but regardless the outcome (answer) is still the same no matter how you paraphrase it.

Anonymous wrote:We have a pretty great and experienced nanny who is against any toddler watching TV at all. She was hoping we would wait until DD was 4 or 5. We have waited until DD turned two but now want to introduce a few programs to her. Nanny has asked us NOT to let her watch on actual big TV (we only have the one in the living room) but rather let her watch on our laptops which we then take to work with us. Nanny said she doesn't want DD asking her to watch TV all day or throw a tantrum because she can't watch TV.

Does this seem the best way to handle it?

Anonymous wrote:TV is how you dumb down a child.
Why do you think it's called the idiot box?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe parents today can still be so naive about television. I have a 6 year old who has never watched TV in our house (he has seen TV at friends houses and occasionally at school or other events, but luckily it hasn't done harm). I have seen him become mesmerized by TVs such as the small TV embedded in the vending machine near the elevator in a building we frequent that only scrolls coke ads. He will stand and stare the whole time we wait for the elevator. Things like that make me glad I have never introduced TV and remind me why I am choosing to continue to never introduce it.

Even "educational" shows have no benefit, it's just a buzz word. You can provide much much more education in 30 minutes by spending time with your child than they could get from any show out there. My child is 6 and reads at a 4th grade level, excels at all areas of school, thrives on learning and knowledge, loves sports and being active, loves to help and cook and clean and be a equal part of the family. TV could not in any way benefit him, me, or this family. And those of you stuck in cycles of fighting about TV should consider taking the leap back and cutting it out 100%.

I can't believe there is anyone alive who thinks every child is like their child, and every family is like their family. Somewhere, there's a child just like yours or smarter who watches all the TV he or she wants. Somewhere, there are families where there is zero fighting about TV.

And for the other 99% of the families they should follow my lead. What is your point? Ignore the outlier and focus on what matters.