Anonymous wrote:Ok thanks. What about the ex husband? What's his criteria?

Anonymous wrote:So what criteria are your mental health issues based on?

Anonymous wrote:What if the husband decides to stalk her? Couldn't that possibly put any NF she works for at risk?

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Anonymous wrote:My nanny is still working. I’m WFM and DH is a pipefitter. She keeps the kids outta my hair, helps them with their school work. Her husband is an electrician. Her only outside interaction is grocery shopping for her household and her inlaws.

She told me one she has been prepping for this her entire life

Her ONLY exposure is going to the store, plus her husband, who is presumably working with other people, plus she is still seeing her in-laws, who are coming into contact with who knows how many people. It is no wonder more people are getting sick every day. You people are idiots. Complete and total idiots.

I think her inlaws are homebound so they don't go anywhere. I know she has mentioned they do alot for them.

In most of our circle, both spouses are working outside of the home. A good number are shopping for 2 or more households.

Then it's not a closed loop. Just saying.

It is going to be virtually impossible to find a nanny that does not have some kind of family. Do you even want to find someone who has no friends, no family, no spouse, no boyfriend? I would be scared to bring someone like that into my home.

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Anonymous wrote:My nanny is still working. I’m WFM and DH is a pipefitter. She keeps the kids outta my hair, helps them with their school work. Her husband is an electrician. Her only outside interaction is grocery shopping for her household and her inlaws.

She told me one she has been prepping for this her entire life

Her ONLY exposure is going to the store, plus her husband, who is presumably working with other people, plus she is still seeing her in-laws, who are coming into contact with who knows how many people. It is no wonder more people are getting sick every day. You people are idiots. Complete and total idiots.

I think her inlaws are homebound so they don't go anywhere. I know she has mentioned they do alot for them.

In most of our circle, both spouses are working outside of the home. A good number are shopping for 2 or more households.

Then it's not a closed loop. Just saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad to see this thread. Currently my wife and I are working from home and juggling child care (20 months y/o). We are paying nanny currently but not having her come to the house. I'm worried we are going to have to make some difficult decisions going forward. Our nanny lives with school age children and a husband who presumably wants to get back to work. Without a vaccine we don't know how to continue with the Nanny in the future. What are others thinking. Our pediatrician told us not to put our kid in school for a couple day a week program while this is going on.

I am grappling with how to judge the amount of exposure our old sitter has, as she lives with extended family (husband, her adult chilld's family including grandchildren, one sibling). I've known our old sitter long enough that I trust her to social distance. But I don't know her extended family and don't know how much risk I might be taking on if we get her to watch our kids. We managed to hang in there juggling two jobs and two little kids, but this is not sustainable for the next few months. I have already used a lot of leave for caregiving here and there but can't continue for another 1-2 months like this. We need at least part time child care. But we also have been strictly social distancing and are risk averse people. We both have underlying conditions so we are afraid that if we catch it, it will be severe. On the other hand, we both are hitting our limits trying to get work done while two little kids need care, as understandably, at their young age, they interrupt our work many times a day. Anyway, just thinking out loud.

We are in a similar boat with 2 kids under 3 (but no known underlying issues) . We may hire a nanny for now and not return to daycare because we think a nanny is a lower risk than daycare. Plus if there are future quarantines we are covered and it looks like there could be bases on numbers.

To PP who said hire a live in nanny .... that is not practical for us in a small apartment or sustainable for many because you're basically asking someone to totally isolate for a really long time.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad to see this thread. Currently my wife and I are working from home and juggling child care (20 months y/o). We are paying nanny currently but not having her come to the house. I'm worried we are going to have to make some difficult decisions going forward. Our nanny lives with school age children and a husband who presumably wants to get back to work. Without a vaccine we don't know how to continue with the Nanny in the future. What are others thinking. Our pediatrician told us not to put our kid in school for a couple day a week program while this is going on.

I am grappling with how to judge the amount of exposure our old sitter has, as she lives with extended family (husband, her adult chilld's family including grandchildren, one sibling). I've known our old sitter long enough that I trust her to social distance. But I don't know her extended family and don't know how much risk I might be taking on if we get her to watch our kids. We managed to hang in there juggling two jobs and two little kids, but this is not sustainable for the next few months. I have already used a lot of leave for caregiving here and there but can't continue for another 1-2 months like this. We need at least part time child care. But we also have been strictly social distancing and are risk averse people. We both have underlying conditions so we are afraid that if we catch it, it will be severe. On the other hand, we both are hitting our limits trying to get work done while two little kids need care, as understandably, at their young age, they interrupt our work many times a day. Anyway, just thinking out loud.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad to see this thread. Currently my wife and I are working from home and juggling child care (20 months y/o). We are paying nanny currently but not having her come to the house. I'm worried we are going to have to make some difficult decisions going forward. Our nanny lives with school age children and a husband who presumably wants to get back to work. Without a vaccine we don't know how to continue with the Nanny in the future. What are others thinking. Our pediatrician told us not to put our kid in school for a couple day a week program while this is going on.

I am grappling with how to judge the amount of exposure our old sitter has, as she lives with extended family (husband, her adult chilld's family including grandchildren, one sibling). I've known our old sitter long enough that I trust her to social distance. But I don't know her extended family and don't know how much risk I might be taking on if we get her to watch our kids. We managed to hang in there juggling two jobs and two little kids, but this is not sustainable for the next few months. I have already used a lot of leave for caregiving here and there but can't continue for another 1-2 months like this. We need at least part time child care. But we also have been strictly social distancing and are risk averse people. We both have underlying conditions so we are afraid that if we catch it, it will be severe. On the other hand, we both are hitting our limits trying to get work done while two little kids need care, as understandably, at their young age, they interrupt our work many times a day. Anyway, just thinking out loud.

Anonymous wrote:Glad to see this thread. Currently my wife and I are working from home and juggling child care (20 months y/o). We are paying nanny currently but not having her come to the house. I'm worried we are going to have to make some difficult decisions going forward. Our nanny lives with school age children and a husband who presumably wants to get back to work. Without a vaccine we don't know how to continue with the Nanny in the future. What are others thinking. Our pediatrician told us not to put our kid in school for a couple day a week program while this is going on.

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Anonymous wrote:21:39 here. What is DH/her DH supposed to do? Tell their bosses they can’t come in? Part of the reason our nanny is coming in is to maintain some sense of normalcy.

I'm so glad you are able to maintain your sense of normalcy. I'll let my close friends who are ER doctors and nurses know their sacrifices are at least keeping your sense of normalcy intact.

Both of those men are essential workers. Plumbers, doctors, firefighters, police, emts, nurses, nursing home staff, grocery store workers, trucking hauling food and other necessities, military, animal shelter employees, etc... There’s a VERY long list of essential workers, and they are all working until/unless we declare martial law.

You are absolutely right. People are struggling for child care because there is no safety net for not only the poor but anybody who wants to follow scientific social guidelines that help to reduce transmission. Don't hate the virus, hate the folks that are exploiting it to your detriment.

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Anonymous wrote:21:39 here. What is DH/her DH supposed to do? Tell their bosses they can’t come in? Part of the reason our nanny is coming in is to maintain some sense of normalcy.

I'm so glad you are able to maintain your sense of normalcy. I'll let my close friends who are ER doctors and nurses know their sacrifices are at least keeping your sense of normalcy intact.

Both of those men are essential workers. Plumbers, doctors, firefighters, police, emts, nurses, nursing home staff, grocery store workers, trucking hauling food and other necessities, military, animal shelter employees, etc... There’s a VERY long list of essential workers, and they are all working until/unless we declare martial law.

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Anonymous wrote:21:39 here. What is DH/her DH supposed to do? Tell their bosses they can’t come in? Part of the reason our nanny is coming in is to maintain some sense of normalcy.

I'm so glad you are able to maintain your sense of normalcy. I'll let my close friends who are ER doctors and nurses know their sacrifices are at least keeping your sense of normalcy intact.