Anonymous wrote:Yes, it does sound like OP would do best in a family that wanted another daughter to assist a stay-home mom who is around a lot of the time. But on the other hand, OP would then be judgmental of the mom for not being with the children every single moment of the day since it's apparently her job as mother to do so. The only type of family I can think of that OP would be good for - and wouldn't be too judgmental of - is a family with easy, well-behaved children requiring no discipline with a mom who is around all the time to do whatever said discipline is needed and "on" with her children all the time, who just wants another daughter around for company and is willing to do all the many things OP wants - buy her a TV, take her to Mexico - just for the sheer pleasure of her company. This isn't how the AP program works in our world, where our AP has actual responsibilities (and is actually capable and a great giving-as-well-as-taking addition to our household), but I'm sure there are families out there - maybe among the few the the LCC has found - who are looking for this? Good luck with your search for your perfect family, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here

Thank you for your input everybody, it's very much appreciated.

I understand that my expectations were too high and that some host parents on this post find it normal not to take their AP on vacation.
I felt my host parents' reaction like "we don't need you in Mexico, but be there to open the door morning and evening".
Some people just forget they're welcoming somebody's daughter in their home.

I should have told them right away that I was sad and felt left out but I wanted everything to work out and didn't want to hurt their feelings because they had been nice to me.

My LLC sent me an email yesterday, she's waiting for me to talk to my host parents, she already has a few families that would be interested in talking to me.
I have told my host father we need to talk this evening ... He seemed surprised. I feel terrible for hurting their feelings but I have to tell them it's not working out.

We have different views about the program but I'm sure there are families out there that would be happy to have me as their Au Pair

Anonymous wrote:OP you should ask your LLC is there are host families who have had younger au pairs in the past and prefer an au pair who wants to spend lots of time with the family. You'll see posts on this board from host families who are frustrated that there au pairs only want to party and disappear the minute their childcare is over to go out with friends constantly. A host family who has had older au pairs who tend to be more independent or au pairs that have a large instant network of friends may be less inclined to include you in everything and assume you want your own time.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound too immature for this experience. That's fine. Go home to, where was it again? Oh yeah, Europe. Go home to Europe and find yourself a job and grow up a little before trying the AP program again.

Anonymous wrote:

Let's not be silly here. There is no "magical solution", but there's no due dilegence here either. Criminal background checks simply must become mandatory, NOT optional.

Anonymous wrote:As a HF, I agree that families should have to undergo background checks.

BUT that is not going to address any of the issues addressed here or in other threads.

No one has every shown an example of an AP who had a problem with a HF that would have failed the background check.

Even the story this year about the APs who were pimped out involved APs who had left the program and had gone underground. The pimp was not a HD.