If you haven't already told her she is done in 2 weeks, I would wait and just let her go at the end of the 2 weeks, telling her you got your kiddo into daycare early.

I have never suggested the "no notice" route, but in this case, I think giving her notice may leave you with either a disgruntled nanny or no nanny at all.

If you feel you absolutely must give her something, then offer 1 week severance in exchange for your house keys, car seat, and any other possessions of yours she has.

"Nanny, we have been able to get kiddo into daycare starting Monday. So today was your last day with us. We know this is short notice, and we plan to give you a week of severance pay once you have returned all of the items on this list to us. When you come over to give these things back, we hope you will say a gentle goodbye to little Edith. We wish you the best with your pregnancy."

And change locks and security codes asap.

Unless this nanny was outstandingly stellar until she got pregnant, I don't think you owe her much of anything, and what I outlined above is more courtesy than she has shown you recently.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't give her a gift, as you are then saying that she's been a great nanny, that you want to celebrate her.
She's lazy and beyond difficult with her pregnancy. Look, even IF she can't lift, she can sit on the floor and read and engage and play with your child. She can have her sit on a sheet for lunch and have a picnic. Your child can climb on the couch and they can read and sing together.

On these really hot days the weather is miserable but why can't they go for a little walk in the morning at 8am before the weather gets really hot, around the block, child walking? 20 month olds are very capable of these kind of things.
Glad the childcare could be moved up as a solution.

I guess I'm just feeling bad because she and her husband aren't wealthy. He works two jobs. They are living beyond their means, but I still feel bad. They're young and lots of people make that mistake.

Yes - I do suggest all those things. It's not that hot at 8 am, but still too hot for her, apparently. DD is more than happy to walk, you're right.

I wouldn't give her a gift, as you are then saying that she's been a great nanny, that you want to celebrate her.
She's lazy and beyond difficult with her pregnancy. Look, even IF she can't lift, she can sit on the floor and read and engage and play with your child. She can have her sit on a sheet for lunch and have a picnic. Your child can climb on the couch and they can read and sing together.

On these really hot days the weather is miserable but why can't they go for a little walk in the morning at 8am before the weather gets really hot, around the block, child walking? 20 month olds are very capable of these kind of things.
Glad the childcare could be moved up as a solution.