It would be difficult to grocery shop with 3 and 1 year old. I would continue to let the housekeeper grocery shop until the kids grow older

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Anonymous wrote:I do the grocery shopping along with Costco, target and whatever else needs to be picked up. we keep a list and the parents add to it if they need/want something. I do all the cooking, packing of lunches so it just makes sense. I sometimes have the two younger kids with me while the older ones are in school.

You sound like Alice, every mother's dream. I hope they pay you well for all that work.

OP here, and I agree! I have no idea how some of the nannies in this post are accomplishing everything that they do during the day.
When I was a SAHM, I spent a lot of time on an evening or early in the morning while the kids were sleeping doing laundry, cleaning, meal prep. I am so impressed that people are getting all of this done during working hours with small kiddos in tow. Hats off to you!!

They can go home and be off work. I never understood nanny and SAHM comparisons. It's not the same thing.

Six year old thread raisied again by a bored troll. OP is long gone.

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Anonymous wrote:
I noticed OP that you did something that all my nanny families have always done when asking me to do something outside of typical childcare.

So...You mentioned you wanted your nanny to go grocery shopping for you, then slyly added in a benefit for HER, that she can buy what she wants for your kids.

Like, you need to sweeten the pot a little because inherently you know it is too much.

Families do this all the time, they will ask a nanny to do something that is not a typical childcare duty, then try to put a spin on it that it is child-related somehow.

I had a family who wanted me to vacuum the entire house during nap time. They stated it was child-related since this would keep the floors free of any small parts/choking hazards, etc.



Believe it or not, there are many many nannies that view their full time jobs as childcare and helping their working bosses run their house well.
They cook, shop and clean during downtime or school time, and have time for the obligatory snooze. They are paid well and they are longterm hires.
They are not the type to be posting on dcum like a middle school girl.


How is this posting (in blue) considered posting like a middle school girl?

You must be nuts, you cannot even capitalize DCUM and you're mocking my post...??!

PP Here:

Sure there are some nannies who do it all, wear many hats and do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, errand running, etc. ON TOP of childcare.

But what most people on here do not take into account, is the more chores you assign your nanny, that is less time/energy she will have for your child(ren.)

What is more important?? Stretching your dollar to the max or having a happy, well-cared for child.

Because you cannot have it all. Something would have to give.

ME: THANK YOU!! Finally someone who get it!! Doing all the extra chores takes away energy.

Grocery shopping has nothing to do with child rearing. You are so la that you can't do your own shopping or have groceries delivered! I suppose next you will want her to wipe your rearend!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed OP that you did something that all my nanny families have always done when asking me to do something outside of typical childcare.

So...You mentioned you wanted your nanny to go grocery shopping for you, then slyly added in a benefit for HER, that she can buy what she wants for your kids.

Like, you need to sweeten the pot a little because inherently you know it is too much.

Families do this all the time, they will ask a nanny to do something that is not a typical childcare duty, then try to put a spin on it that it is child-related somehow.

I had a family who wanted me to vacuum the entire house during nap time. They stated it was child-related since this would keep the floors free of any small parts/choking hazards, etc.

Believe it or not, there are many many nannies that view their full time jobs as childcare and helping their working bosses run their house well.
They cook, shop and clean during downtime or school time, and have time for the obligatory snooze. They are paid well and they are longterm hires.
They are not the type to be posting on dcum like a middle school girl.

How is this posting (in blue) considered posting like a middle school girl?

You must be nuts, you cannot even capitalize DCUM and you're mocking my post...??!

PP Here:

Sure there are some nannies who do it all, wear many hats and do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, errand running, etc. ON TOP of childcare.

But what most people on here do not take into account, is the more chores you assign your nanny, that is less time/energy she will have for your child(ren.)

What is more important?? Stretching your dollar to the max or having a happy, well-cared for child.

Because you cannot have it all. Something would have to give.

Nanny responsibilities aside, I disagree with the premise that children need your 24/7 undivided attention. They do not and should be engaged at a certain age. On average. Obviously YMMV. Larlo/a can help fold laundry etc. Or play alone when nanny cooks lunch.

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed OP that you did something that all my nanny families have always done when asking me to do something outside of typical childcare.

So...You mentioned you wanted your nanny to go grocery shopping for you, then slyly added in a benefit for HER, that she can buy what she wants for your kids.

Like, you need to sweeten the pot a little because inherently you know it is too much.

Families do this all the time, they will ask a nanny to do something that is not a typical childcare duty, then try to put a spin on it that it is child-related somehow.

I had a family who wanted me to vacuum the entire house during nap time. They stated it was child-related since this would keep the floors free of any small parts/choking hazards, etc.

Believe it or not, there are many many nannies that view their full time jobs as childcare and helping their working bosses run their house well.
They cook, shop and clean during downtime or school time, and have time for the obligatory snooze. They are paid well and they are longterm hires.
They are not the type to be posting on dcum like a middle school girl.

This. These are the nannies that stay on when the kids are in ES. They just transition jobs and help with the inevitable sick days etc. (Obviously this is very privileged of me to say as not everyone can afford to keep a nanny that long.)

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Anonymous wrote:I am moving and looking into hiring a nanny and a housekeeper, and I am trying to consider duties for both. I haven't hired anyone yet, and I want to make sure that everyone is going into this with clear expectations.

I have four children, ages 5, 6, 3, and 1. In the past, my housekeeper has done the grocery shopping, but starting this fall the older two will be in kindergarten and first grade, and my three year old will be in preschool 10 hours/wk. I was thinking of asking our nanny to do the grocery shopping once a week during preschool hours. Obviously, I would provide a list, but I would expect that she could get what she wants to eat and make for the kids lunches.

Also, I would likely have the housekeeper, not the nanny, do all of the laundry. Laundry for four kids seems like a lot to ask of someone who will also be looking after a 1 y/o and 3 y/o most of the day.

You want her to grocery shop with four brats in tow--something that you can't even do! When I see any woman with four kids grocery shopping, I know there will be total chaos! You would have to pay me $100/hr to go through this torture. All children under age 12 should be banned from grocery stores.

Wow. You have so much negativity that you have to comment this s**t on a 6 year old thread? People like you are why nannnies will never be viewed as professionals.

Anonymous wrote:If the nanny does the grocery shopping, do you just give them a debit card? How do you have the nanny pay for groceries?

We got our nanny a credit card. She does ordering for the kids too (shampoo, diapers, etc) and buys birthday party gifts for their friends and wraps them!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 No, our nanny is the same as yours. I don't want our nanny doing any household chores beyond the immediate care of my kids either.

I never understood this. I don't ask our nanny to do any household chores, even if they are kid related. Sure she does the dishes she and he use, but why would you part out all this extra stuff just to make two people do it? If I am going grocery shopping I buy stuff for my son too. If I am doing laundry I can do my sons. When I load the dishwasher I will include all my sons things too.

It always shocks me to see people saying they leave all these jobs for the nanny, I guess to make it feel like they are getting their monies worth or something. I want nanny focusing on DS 100%.

First, PP here and the nanny. I prefer to do my charges laundry and grocery shopping. For grocery shopping, I like to balance his meals and make sure he is getting adequate nutrition. I shop with him with him and make a learning experience out of it for him.

The laundry is just a personal preference. My employers have no clue how to get stains out of his clothes and I refuse to take a child in public looking unkempt. Cooking for my change and doing his laundry are what I do when he is napping -- otherwise I would just be sitting there.

+1. Nanny here and I am the same (although I don’t take my charges to the grocery store since covid). My employers would end up giving the kids pouches and chicken nuggets constantly if I didn’t make their food.

Anonymous wrote:I am moving and looking into hiring a nanny and a housekeeper, and I am trying to consider duties for both. I haven't hired anyone yet, and I want to make sure that everyone is going into this with clear expectations.

I have four children, ages 5, 6, 3, and 1. In the past, my housekeeper has done the grocery shopping, but starting this fall the older two will be in kindergarten and first grade, and my three year old will be in preschool 10 hours/wk. I was thinking of asking our nanny to do the grocery shopping once a week during preschool hours. Obviously, I would provide a list, but I would expect that she could get what she wants to eat and make for the kids lunches.

Also, I would likely have the housekeeper, not the nanny, do all of the laundry. Laundry for four kids seems like a lot to ask of someone who will also be looking after a 1 y/o and 3 y/o most of the day.

You want her to grocery shop with four brats in tow--something that you can't even do! When I see any woman with four kids grocery shopping, I know there will be total chaos! You would have to pay me $100/hr to go through this torture. All children under age 12 should be banned from grocery stores.

If the nanny does the grocery shopping, do you just give them a debit card? How do you have the nanny pay for groceries?

Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 This is how I work as well. I enjoy taking my charge to the grocery store for him but I wouldn't be comfortable doing it for the whole family nor would he happily sit thru a long excursion. I also prefer to do the laundry every day so four kids' worth of laundry would be fine with me.


Bottom line, OP - ask your nanny.

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who is happy to grocery shop! I think its good for the kids to see food and I think taking the kids to do the shopping can have a Fe wither benefits. For example picky eaters can pick out a piece of fruit or a veggie and I can say when I feed it to them 'this is the apple you chose in the store'. You can also pick a new food to try each week kinda like a game again great with picky eaters or pick out foods in color ie for lunch lets have all yellow foods (corn, cheese, pasta, bananas custard ect).

This can help smaller children with colours and children who are just learning to talk get to know the names of foods. Older children can read the list and cross things off.

Like many nannies I am the one doing most of the cooking for the children (lunch and dinner, as well as packing snacks) so I most probably know best what we are running low on/what we will need for the week.

Agree on all accounts. Kids like outings like the grocery store, Target, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who is happy to grocery shop! I think its good for the kids to see food and I think taking the kids to do the shopping can have a Fe wither benefits. For example picky eaters can pick out a piece of fruit or a veggie and I can say when I feed it to them 'this is the apple you chose in the store'. You can also pick a new food to try each week kinda like a game again great with picky eaters or pick out foods in color ie for lunch lets have all yellow foods (corn, cheese, pasta, bananas custard ect).

This can help smaller children with colours and children who are just learning to talk get to know the names of foods. Older children can read the list and cross things off.

Like many nannies I am the one doing most of the cooking for the children (lunch and dinner, as well as packing snacks) so I most probably know best what we are running low on/what we will need for the week.

Yes, where else would kids ever see food if not for grocery shopping with nanny?!