It's not disrespectful

"Nanny Mary" or just "Nanny". I don't like children calling me by my first name alone. It is disrespectful.

First name.... I think it's weird to actually be called "nanny" kind of lame.

Miss X. I like it and don't offer an alternative. As they age they sometimes call me by my first name. I am similar to a teacher and feel it is respectful. It in no way takes away from our emotional bond or silliness.

Nanny Anne or just Nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:We have an au pair. She is called "Miss Firstname" by the children because we expect them to refer to all adults in this way. It helps them understand that she is not their friend (although they love her) but she is "the boss" when they are together.

We love respectful parents like you.
Thank you.

This is good.

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Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old charge calls me a shortened version of my first name. It drives me insane, I have talked with him about how I don't like when he calls me that and that he needs to call me by my name, but he refuses and his mother thinks it's adorable. I have always gone by my first name and prefer that.

How unfortunate that the mother has such little respect for her child's nanny.
If your charge (or anyone) calls you by anything you deem inappropriate, simply ignore it. That's that the most effective remedy. Do not respond until they address you properly.

Simmer down - it's probably like her name is Emily and the kid calls her Emmy or something. It's not like her name is Julia and the kid calls her Jerkface.

The point is the PP does not want to be called it, regardless what the shortened name may be, and her boss isn't backing her up. There are several shortened versions of my name that just make me cringe to hear, fortunately, all of my employers have asked what I would like to be called and then followed through. It's a simple issue of respect. She shouldn't simmer down.

Exactly. Nannies should be addressed respectfully, however they see fit. Shame on parents who don't support that.

I have my charges refer to me as Roxy. My name is Roxanna so it's a nickname. Respect is about the way you treat the person, not what you call them.

Anonymous wrote:We have an au pair. She is called "Miss Firstname" by the children because we expect them to refer to all adults in this way. It helps them understand that she is not their friend (although they love her) but she is "the boss" when they are together.

We love respectful parents like you.
Thank you.

We have an au pair. She is called "Miss Firstname" by the children because we expect them to refer to all adults in this way. It helps them understand that she is not their friend (although they love her) but she is "the boss" when they are together.

Anonymous wrote:My charges all refer to me as "Miss FirstName". I feel like it helps to establish a professional boundary with both my charges and my employers.

Aww I mean, I have no problems with however anyone else cares to be addressed but I don't want a professional boundary between me and the kids! They show me respect by doing what I ask, I don't want to feel (or make them feel) I'm holding them at arm's length with a title - I want them to know that I love them and they can trust me like they do their aunts and uncles. That being said, if I still worked in the South I'm sure I'd also be Ms. First Name.

My charges all refer to me as "Miss FirstName". I feel like it helps to establish a professional boundary with both my charges and my employers.

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Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old charge calls me a shortened version of my first name. It drives me insane, I have talked with him about how I don't like when he calls me that and that he needs to call me by my name, but he refuses and his mother thinks it's adorable. I have always gone by my first name and prefer that.

How unfortunate that the mother has such little respect for her child's nanny.
If your charge (or anyone) calls you by anything you deem inappropriate, simply ignore it. That's that the most effective remedy. Do not respond until they address you properly.

Simmer down - it's probably like her name is Emily and the kid calls her Emmy or something. It's not like her name is Julia and the kid calls her Jerkface.

The point is the PP does not want to be called it, regardless what the shortened name may be, and her boss isn't backing her up. There are several shortened versions of my name that just make me cringe to hear, fortunately, all of my employers have asked what I would like to be called and then followed through. It's a simple issue of respect. She shouldn't simmer down.

Exactly. Nannies should be addressed respectfully, however they see fit. Shame on parents who don't support that.

This is the bottom line.

Parents can ask the nanny what she prefers.

Anonymous wrote:"Nanny Mary". My employers are more formal and do not want their child calling adults by their first names. It was either "Miss Mary" or "Nanny Mary" - I chose "Nanny Mary".

Given how entitled most kids are today, I strongly agree with the above. It helps them remember you aren't another one of their little friends.

"Nanny Mary". My employers are more formal and do not want their child calling adults by their first names. It was either "Miss Mary" or "Nanny Mary" - I chose "Nanny Mary".