Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?

Interesting question.

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Most people understand that an "only child" is often a disadvantaged child, unless parents go out of their way to mitigate the unfortunate consequences of the circumstances. That's why my pediatric psychiatrist employer jump at the prospect of my bringing my child to work, even in spite of my well-established high rates.

Some of you wish to repeatedly downplay this reality. By no means is it the best solution for every single family, especially when there already are several children.

Oh my, you are delusional, as well as selfish.

An only child is not "disadvantaged" and there are are no "unfortunate consequences of the circumstances" that need mitigating by giving you free child care.

Give this nonsense up. It bears no resemblance to reality.

It's not quite the stigma that it used to be, to be an only child.

Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.

Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?

Yes, they do. It's on the parents forum quite frequently.

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Anonymous wrote:Welcome to the professional world of work. People aren't allowed to bring their children to work because it is a distraction and a liability. If it magnifies your guilt that you work with children all day, consider a new profession. You're not entitled to bring your child to work.

My intellegent pediatric psychiatrist employer was thrilled for my child to come to work with me. LOL.

My mom was allowed to bring me to work when she worked in the mayor's office. That continued until I was about one and a half and my parents were able to afford her staying home with me.

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"Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?"

No, they don't.


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Furthermore, a nanny's child is NOT a sibling. In fact, this setup brings all the downsides of having a sibling and none of the benefit of actually having a sibling.

I'm a nanny and if I ever had my own children I'd work part time and put my children in a great daycare because I believe it build social skills the other days they'd be with me.

Anonymous wrote:"Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?"

No, they don't.

Of the ones I've known, they've always wished for a little sister or brother. Most children are naturally social beings. Of course eventually, they learn to stop begging.

Anonymous wrote:"Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?"

No, they don't.

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Most people understand that an "only child" is often a disadvantaged child, unless parents go out of their way to mitigate the unfortunate consequences of the circumstances. That's why my pediatric psychiatrist employer jump at the prospect of my bringing my child to work, even in spite of my well-established high rates.

Some of you wish to repeatedly downplay this reality. By no means is it the best solution for every single family, especially when there already are several children.

Oh my, you are delusional, as well as selfish.

An only child is not "disadvantaged" and there are are no "unfortunate consequences of the circumstances" that need mitigating by giving you free child care.

Give this nonsense up. It bears no resemblance to reality.

It's not quite the stigma that it used to be, to be an only child.

Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.

You need to do a better job picking your friends.

"Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?"

No, they don't.

Our nanny brings her newborn and her 5 yr old to our house when she watches my DD. We consider it a nanny share, and she gets paid less than she would without her kids here, but definitely I think it's better than being paid more $$ and handing it over to somebody to watch her newborn and son all day.

You should find a nanny share asap. I totally understand how you feel, as I did the daycare thing for about 6 months before hiring the nanny.

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Most people understand that an "only child" is often a disadvantaged child, unless parents go out of their way to mitigate the unfortunate consequences of the circumstances. That's why my pediatric psychiatrist employer jump at the prospect of my bringing my child to work, even in spite of my well-established high rates.

Some of you wish to repeatedly downplay this reality. By no means is it the best solution for every single family, especially when there already are several children.

Oh my, you are delusional, as well as selfish.

An only child is not "disadvantaged" and there are are no "unfortunate consequences of the circumstances" that need mitigating by giving you free child care.

Give this nonsense up. It bears no resemblance to reality.

It's not quite the stigma that it used to be, to be an only child.

Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.

Don't most only children beg endlessly for a sibling?

OP here
I see this thread is getting harsher, much like the majority of threads on DCUM. Just wanted to say, as I said earlier, I am keeping my job. Have thought out how to make my time with DC more focused on qualitative measures than quantitative measures, and have been implementing them over the past few days, and I am happier already. Also going to move closer to work and change method of transportation to shorten the commute. Thank you all who constructively contributed, now let the thread die before your panties get in an unloosen-able knot.

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Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.

You really are stupid. Unapologetically stupid.

Yes. You are spewing stereotypes. Foolishly.

No, your personal anecdotes don't count as data.

Yes. You really should shut up because you sound embarrassingly dumb.

Let me guess...only child? Or mother to an only? Your defensiveness and complete overreaction are enough to tell me that you know it's true.

Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.

You really are stupid. Unapologetically stupid.

Yes. You are spewing stereotypes. Foolishly.

No, your personal anecdotes don't count as data.

Yes. You really should shut up because you sound embarrassingly dumb.

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Most people understand that an "only child" is often a disadvantaged child, unless parents go out of their way to mitigate the unfortunate consequences of the circumstances. That's why my pediatric psychiatrist employer jump at the prospect of my bringing my child to work, even in spite of my well-established high rates.

Some of you wish to repeatedly downplay this reality. By no means is it the best solution for every single family, especially when there already are several children.

Oh my, you are delusional, as well as selfish.

An only child is not "disadvantaged" and there are are no "unfortunate consequences of the circumstances" that need mitigating by giving you free child care.

Give this nonsense up. It bears no resemblance to reality.

It's not quite the stigma that it used to be, to be an only child.

Yes it's more convenient for the parents and their careers and their pocketbooks, so its happening now more than ever. It doesn't change the fact that only children are notoriously egocentric, selfish, and lacking the empathy that comes from having siblings. It's not just a stereotype. ALL of my friends that are also only children, though nice people, have real issues understanding the point of views of others, and thinking beyond their own personal needs and desires.