Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a MB, I don't think this changes anything that I would ask a reference. Not sure why I needed to know this.
This post is for people who are less ethical than you.
Just as there are crappy nannies, there are also crappy parents.
Former employers can be a very valuable asset in the process of weeding out the bad apples.
The best families want their former nannies to enjoy continued professional success.
Anonymous wrote:
If you want a sitter and a housekeeper wrapped up in one person, you need to be clear about that in the beginning.
A professional nanny will not waste her time, or yours.
Anonymous wrote:One of my former families cares so much about my happiness, that whenever a potential new employer calls her, she calls me up to tell me what she thought of you. What you asked, what your tone was. If you were at all inappropriate with any particular question. She tells me if you seemed respectful of my work. Bottom line, if you didn't sound worthy of me, you will not be getting me. That's how much I trust this woman.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is so old.
It also reveals immaturity of the MB more than anything. Why is this worth boasting about?
If you are told that a new MB called for reference, yes, the MB also has that info too!! She knows what you know which is that she called for a reference. Wow. So what.
The new MB is being evaluated? Of course. During the interview process, both sides are being interviewed.
However, the parent looking to hire a good nanny, knows NOT to directly ask the nannies if they'll clean the house. They know better than that. They're more comfortable asking former employers to see what scheme they can get away with.
Little do these scheming mothers know that good nanny families WILL warn their beloved former nannies.
The way I see it, you are expected to work at your job. When the kids are young, you either play or clean the house. If MB expects you to clean (beyond the mess created by children), then she is cheating herself out of hours that her kids can be interacting with an adult and general attention and interaction. If your charges are older and you just want to sit around instead of making yourself useful by helping around the house, you don't deserve the job. She's not being sneaky. She's asking if you are a hard worker. If you are either not a hard worker or don't want to be a hard worker, then it's best for all if you don't take the job. Go find another job where you can slack off.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is so old.
It also reveals immaturity of the MB more than anything. Why is this worth boasting about?
If you are told that a new MB called for reference, yes, the MB also has that info too!! She knows what you know which is that she called for a reference. Wow. So what.
The new MB is being evaluated? Of course. During the interview process, both sides are being interviewed.
However, the parent looking to hire a good nanny, knows NOT to directly ask the nannies if they'll clean the house. They know better than that. They're more comfortable asking former employers to see what scheme they can get away with.
Little do these scheming mothers know that good nanny families WILL warn their beloved former nannies.
Anonymous wrote:This thread is so old.
It also reveals immaturity of the MB more than anything. Why is this worth boasting about?
If you are told that a new MB called for reference, yes, the MB also has that info too!! She knows what you know which is that she called for a reference. Wow. So what.
The new MB is being evaluated? Of course. During the interview process, both sides are being interviewed.
Anonymous wrote:One of my previous MB's does this too. She actually warned me against a family that called her for a reference. Apparently they asked my former MB if she thought I would be willing to clean curtains, banisters, etc.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Beware of what exactly? It's a peer to peer conversation between MBs. OP, you sound like an immature child who says "I have an adult on my side!". You should be able to tell crazies from non-crazies without a third party intervention.
Why can't you tell a good nanny from a bad one without third party intervention?
Anonymous wrote:When you call my refs......BEWARE
It's actually my friend making up the whole thing!