pp, what the hell is special occupation at bedtime, lol, did you even read your post

When the time comes to manage our house for the first time and we haven't had a pattern to follow, we don't have to know everything either!! That's what this forum is for, to clear up the doubts that dance in our heads. It's a matter of common sense, it's not about whether the OP is normal or abnormal, her question is valid! Furthermore, this represents the mystery of many!! If a nanny is full-time, common sense tells me that she should provide food that we all usually eat. If she has an allergy or special diet, she should choose from the pantry at home, but from there to give special occupation at bedtime. Buying groceries from your employer will only be one less point in your favor. As for a nanny who travels daily, it is like other jobs, everyone brings her own lunch and snacks…. So all that remains is to invite her to try what you buy for the family, it is very uncomfortable to see someone eat something and not try a small portion, do not think at that moment that she is the nanny, just think that she is your guest. Your soul will have peace of mind and your nanny will be happy to have a thoughtful employer like you! (How would you feel in the office if they don't give you donuts or pizza eventually? In the sea there are all kinds of fish, there are those who are gluttons who could eat your children's portion, and it is not healthy for the soul to eat what is stolen. Is fine if you don't need to agree…

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Anonymous wrote:It is not a matter of decency of the employer but the matter of decency of nanny. Food is very expensive these days, and my daily food comes to about $30 during my shift, that would add up costs. I am making $35 per hr, and 5 yrs a week overtime, and honestly can afford my own food without complicating things, Of course, if you are paying $22 or something near that you better buy food since your nanny is probably starving. Maybe living out of her car as well.

Food doesn't cost $30 a day. What are you eating? Yes, they should provide food but you are absurd.

Um, as a working parent I bring my own breakfast and lunch to work 99% of the time.
My breakdown for homemade dinner for me and two kids runs about $20-25/meal - and we're talking salmon & NY strip steak as part of the rotation.

I definitely would not expect to be paying a $30 daily lunch for a glorified babysitter. Some of you 'nannies' are way entitled.

Starting your response with “um” makes you sound like a snotty 12-year-old.

Most of my NFs will learn (either by asking or observation) what I like and stock some things specifically for me. A specific canned coffee drink I like, cheese sticks, that sort of thing. Not a shopping trip’s worth, or even really meals, just a few things they know I like.

When people say “help yourself,” I never do bc it feels awkward and you never know when something is going to be off-limits. Like make yourself a pbj and then find out that was the artisanal bread and we were having BLTs for dinner and now they are annoyed.

if you cook with meat, a pot of stewed beef with side and fresh veggies could easily be $30, and I usually have berries for kids. With the current prices, food runs to about $60 a day for my family of 4. If I add nanny's food, even if it is $15 a day, it is just too much. She is welcome to peanut butter and crackers but I am not cooking a meal for her. She is more than capable to take care of herself, haha.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not a matter of decency of the employer but the matter of decency of nanny. Food is very expensive these days, and my daily food comes to about $30 during my shift, that would add up costs. I am making $35 per hr, and 5 yrs a week overtime, and honestly can afford my own food without complicating things, Of course, if you are paying $22 or something near that you better buy food since your nanny is probably starving. Maybe living out of her car as well.

Food doesn't cost $30 a day. What are you eating? Yes, they should provide food but you are absurd.

Um, as a working parent I bring my own breakfast and lunch to work 99% of the time.
My breakdown for homemade dinner for me and two kids runs about $20-25/meal - and we're talking salmon & NY strip steak as part of the rotation.

I definitely would not expect to be paying a $30 daily lunch for a glorified babysitter. Some of you 'nannies' are way entitled.

What a liar lol.

I used to eat the same food as the kids. The family bought Diet Coke for me specifically but that was it. If I took the kids out for lunch or something I gave them the receipt for reimbursement and they paid for mine too. Other than the Diet Coke I didn’t ask for any special food or drink. Not above the sting chicken nuggets and some raw veggies for lunch.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not a matter of decency of the employer but the matter of decency of nanny. Food is very expensive these days, and my daily food comes to about $30 during my shift, that would add up costs. I am making $35 per hr, and 5 yrs a week overtime, and honestly can afford my own food without complicating things, Of course, if you are paying $22 or something near that you better buy food since your nanny is probably starving. Maybe living out of her car as well.

Food doesn't cost $30 a day. What are you eating? Yes, they should provide food but you are absurd.

Um, as a working parent I bring my own breakfast and lunch to work 99% of the time.
My breakdown for homemade dinner for me and two kids runs about $20-25/meal - and we're talking salmon & NY strip steak as part of the rotation.

I definitely would not expect to be paying a $30 daily lunch for a glorified babysitter. Some of you 'nannies' are way entitled.